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I Want to hand it to you; that was( is) fantastic advice......Wish I'd had the guidance to do that during my "teens"... kudos.
Originally posted by SunSword
reply to post by mossme89
OK. I'm going to give you some useful advice, not just tell you to "suck it up". But before I give you the advice, I am going to give you a perspective.
Remember when you were 4? What you liked, how you spent your day, what you watched on TV? If someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, what you have said?
Now remember when you were 8? You knew way more than when you were 4. Far more than twice as much. You could (I presume) read, write, do basic math, ride a bike. You were hugely more knowledgeable about the world than when you were 4.
Now imagine yourself at 16 (you are around there if you are in HS). How much more do you know, have you thought of, can you do, than way back when you were 8?
Now when you hit your early 30's, you will be as far beyond where you are now, as you are now beyond where you were when you were 8. And ditto in your 60's.
Dandylion ==> Bush ==> Apple tree ==> Mighty Oak ==> Sequoia Redwood.
OK I just told you all that so you can get a concept that (a) you have a lot of positive experience to look forward to and (b) that I really can give you some useful advice since I am up there in that Oak/Redwood range.
Here is the advice.
1st, pick 3 things. Something you will try. One a physical activity, one a skill activity, and one a mental activity. Might be swimming, one line gaming, learning cryptography. Might be Tae Kwon Do, pistol shooting, playing Go. Might be weight lifting, throwing pottery, studying a science not taught at HS.
Practice each thing for one year. Don't quit. Fill your time with these 3 things. Make a schedule and stick to them. You may make friends while doing them, maybe not. Thing is, you do these for you.
After a year, pick 3 things. Again a physical activity, a skill activity, a mental activity. You are permitted to keep 2 of them the same if you want. Or do 3 new things. Rock climbing, learning welding, doing bible study. Fencing (with swords), learning to draw anime, learning a programming language.
Again practice for one year. Don't quit any of them once started, you must do the full year. Make a schedule and stick to it. Again you may make friends, maybe not.
Here is what you will find. Once you get good at something, and if you behave politely, people who DO THE SAME THING will be polite to you. Over time, you will socialize. Because if you are good at something that other people want to do, and you are nice; many people who do that thing will want to hang with you.
But even if not many do -- you will find your days full of doing stuff that you want to do. And things will lead to things, connections to connections, that you cannot now imagine.
Do this, trust me. You will be happier in a few months. And you will become more self assured, more centered, over time. This is how to grow and grow well.