Originally posted by hypervalentiodine
Originally posted by NewAgeMan
We cannot even begin to know who we are, as a real, true and authentic "who" until at the very least we know who we are not, which is never who we
think we are. Only when we know that who we are being, or pretending to be, is simply our own creation, are we authentically who we really are
as "not nobody". Other than that, there's no freedom to be authentically true and real, just compelled to keep the story or the drama going regarding
who we think we are and are projecting to others as an image of "self".
And so in the end we cannot say for certain, and it's perfectly ok not to know who we REALLY are beyond the roles we play, because knowing that we
don't know, if the beginning of self awareness and the awareness of a transcendant ego.
Of course, it is difficult to fully comprehend all that we are on a personality or 'spiritual' level. We are a culmination of so many different
processes, it would be nigh on impossible to have a full grasp on all of these factors, both genetic and otherwise. My questions really boil down to
this: do you think that our identity derives from shape, from 'what's inside' or both? The problem with both of these is that shape and personality
change dramatically over time and therefore, our identity must also change - correct?
Close. What I'm saying is we are the who that's "what's inside" the shape, but we mistake the shape, or the personality with the who, thinking that
THAT's who we are, when in truth, that is NOT who we are at all, just a shape, nothing more, just a role, a way of being, preferably something chosen
authentically and with some degree of awareness, not as in "that's just who I am" being the personality, as the who. We are not who we THINK we are!
The spiritual person, is the nothing and no one special (it's still special in its own right, as no one and nothing in particular), who although
he/she isn't NOBODY they aren't any BODY in particular, what the Zen Buddhists call the no-self self. When self is undone, as an "identity", the true
self is then realized, who is of course then completely free to just go back to being that particularlized "who" they were before (if they wish),
except with the awareness and the insight that that particular who isn't REALLY who they really are, not the true self, that's just an image
projected, an "identity" which we've adopted, it's nothing we can or ought to be constrained by, or limited almost exlusively to, by any means,
surely?! Even as a mere nothing we are not that small!
Aside from that there is no particular description ie: my name, my status, my sex, my car, my hair, etc. etc. which can even begin to possibly convery
just who we really are - and we don't KNOW who that is, only that it's a who and not a nobody (I am starting to sound like Dr. Zeuss?).
Until we recognize this, or re-cognize it, there is no possibility for any real and authentic self to emerge or to re-emerge, as a
choice about
who we are being, who we are chosing to be, freely (liberated as authentic, or real), even if only our "selves", as our prior personality! In other
words, the only way to make what was inauthentic, authentic again, is to become totally authentic about the degree of our prior inauthenticity ie: who
we took ourselves to be as in "our personality" not as a creation, but as a fixed way of being, without much creativity of novelty even possible which
is of course something by its very nature which can't NOT operate or function as a severe constraint or limitation upon the freely chosen self
expression of a fully individuated or self-realized person. Self realized - that ought to have been our first clue.. duh!
Oh of course we all have our fixed traits, but wouldn't it be nice to be a little more aware of the masks we wear, and to recognize that when we wake
up first thing in the morning, before we remember who we're
supposed to be, remember and recognize instead that anything and any "one" is
possible, each day a new creation, and a new possibility.. And no I'm not suggesting that we try on a new personality every day, like fresh socks and
underwear, but we could if we wanted to and still be 100% more authentic than we USED to be, playing the automatic role we've already always assumed,
at least until now, to be our "self" and one without any choice in the matter whatsoever. Most people realizing this of course then choose to be who
they used to be anyway with a few new things thrown in for good measure, maybe even as the polar opposites of certain personality traits like shyness,
or overbearing, whatever will restore balance, wholeness and peace of mind with integrity, to the whole person, the whole system or process (never a
mere "thing") "who" then, as nobody in particular, is already perfect whole and complete as he/she already is, in truth, and in spirit: A happy person
- since who would choose anything less than that?!
Of course then who we REALLY are, being non-particularized, is also non-local!
But we're STILL "nothing special" or nobody special, provided we remember that when nothing is special, everything is!

(how cute).
And I think that when we're clear, that's how we see things, as CUTE or through the eyes of a child, but not without the more mature awareness and
understanding of an adult. Thus we get the best of both worlds, which WAS the dream of childhood, without any trade offs.
edit on 15-2-2011 by NewAgeMan because: edit