posted on Feb, 4 2011 @ 10:18 PM
Originally posted by Sherlock Holmes
Valentine's Day, on the other hand, is just a generic day where people may feel that they're expected to, via emotional blackmail from society, buy
their beau or belle a gift to show their affection.
I understand what you are saying, and feel it's a genuine sentiment.
On the other hand "just because" other people use the holiday doesn't automatically
invalidate it. Traditions serve us by giving us a
skeleton or framework, which we can flesh out any way we choose.
What makes an occasion authentic is the life we put into it, and not how others are using the day for themselves.
It is only inauthentic IF you go through the motions without meaning them.
Sometimes my wife and I get a great laugh by "acting out" the stereotypes. It's also a chance to teach our children about demonstrating your love
for your spouse. If you don't train the boys on how to date a lady, they sure as hell aren't going to learn from the TV. And the girls can see how
a loving man treats the woman he desires.
I can still remember my Dad, lecturing me because I had failed to get my girlfriend a birthday present. He demanded to know why I hadn't gotten
anything. I said "I couldn't think of anything she needs." That's when he dropped the bombshell on me:
"You don't give a lady something she needs! You give her something a lady might want
Special occasions, even the trite ones, are a chance to show your beloved how they exist in your mind's eye. Glamorous or strong or serene or
whatever. Your gift is a form of communication: "Here is how I think of you."
Anybody who thinks finding a romantic gift is "too much work" deserves to be alone.