posted on Feb, 2 2011 @ 11:17 AM
A couple close to me is going through a difficult part in their life and in it, there is something I think that could be good theorpy for those here
who may have gone through it before or maybe could help those who may go through this in the future (or worse off; now).
This couple, we will call them Wanda and Rob, is reaching the age of forty and as most women can attest, Wanda's clock is ringing loud in her. She
(now) wants a child, however Rob does not. When they got together there was an agreement that neither wanted a child and it was left at that.
Sitting on the outside of this turmoil in their lives, I have seen the stress and problems that has continued to press into their great relationship.
This is really their only hang up. The only thing that hurts their relationship now.
Wanda has even gone as far as get her friends (and some of his friends) to wear him down to the idea. There was something that she said in my
presence that made me wonder... She stated “Women have the right to have a child.” I was taken aback, but held composure and have tried to keep
neutral in the dellema. I think that has drawn me in more.
I guess the thing that annoys me is that this woman who I respect and see as a friend, actually believes she has the “right” to bear a child.
Now is she correct and I am off the wall or is it vise-versa?
I know quite a few women who have children that probably shouldn't have (given how they treat them). But I am not a woman and I have to sympathize
with Rob here. He did not change his priorities in life and still does not want one. However, I think it low that Wanda has to get her friends to
“wear” him down to the idea.
Also, is it truly a right for a woman to have a child? Just because they have the ability? I think that is a lousy excuse. I have the ability to
kill another person, but that surely does not give me the right to. So, I cannot see how that is viable.
What is your input? Is it a right to have a child? Can the couple make it through if they have one? What if they don't?