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Originally posted by Anttyk47
When he's calm, or if he is never calm try to approach him in a clam manner, and just talk to him.
Originally posted by gandhi
Well, if my mom just died, I would be devastated. So devastated, i may just not do anything. I would also probably react badly to tense situations, attacking the person rather then helping. It's just human nature though.
Instead of throwing him out, ensure addiction is not involved. If so, take care of that for him. Don't give the kid what he wants, give him what he needs. If addiction has nothing to do with it, he obviously needs a lot more help. Try getting him into something beneficial and fun, like web design or even photography. Let creativity be a vent, if not, violence will.
I am in no way trying to attack your method of dealing with the situation, and it is probably a lot worst than I am thinking. But throwing him out on his ass is not looking out for your family, and in such a time and situation as yours, its very irresponsible. Helping is a lot harder and longer, and cost you more than him, but it's worth it once sanity is restored.
Originally posted by gandhi
reply to post by alysha.angel
I was thinking someone my age....disregard what I said unless addiction is involved.
(I'm 18)
Originally posted by seedofchucky
The man needs a wake up call. The man does not realize the implications of his actions right now because he is used to using fear and guilt to get his way .
How to fix ?
let him learn the hard way ..
once something is gone ...only then do some actually appreciate it and will go to reform and change there ways....
evict evict evict .
Its to bad some people have to go through the hardway to get the hint
but hey ...
your doing him a favor in the long run.
Next time he thinks about pulling this card again he will remember the eviction from his family and the conseqences and he will think twice and act once .
You are doing the right thing. imo
Originally posted by seedofchucky
The man needs a wake up call. The man does not realize the implications of his actions right now because he is used to using fear and guilt to get his way .
How to fix ?
let him learn the hard way ..
once something is gone ...only then do some actually appreciate it and will go to reform and change there ways....
evict evict evict .
Its to bad some people have to go through the hardway to get the hint
but hey ...
your doing him a favor in the long run.
Next time he thinks about pulling this card again he will remember the eviction from his family and the conseqences and he will think twice and act once .
You are doing the right thing. imo
Originally posted by IzzycomesinPeace
reply to post by alysha.angel
I agree with the first reply, evict him. You do not deserve to be treated like that, you said he was 30 right? He is acting like he is the only person who is going through this loss (I'm sorry for your loss btw). You don't need to deal with someone who doesn't treat you with respect on top of going through your own emotions. Things will get better. If I read correctly you said your older brother is behaving fine? I'm sure you and your older brother realized that you have to get through hard times as a family, and until your younger brother is able to do that I would kick him to the curb. Lay down the law, either be a part of this family, contribute, and not add extra stress... Or leave.
Stay strong, miss. Things will get better