posted on Jan, 16 2011 @ 03:12 PM
I don't think its productive to wish the badness onto bad people...thats just fueling negativity and will drive you nuts if you keep thinking about
I won't go into the god debate...lets just say..hey, 19 years old..its very young, but comparatively, there are good people all over the world dying
from simple starvation whom have never known love, or hugs, or kissing someone they enjoyed being with, etc.
This isn't supposed to make it feel better...it sucks..but you know what, a 100 year old dying also sucks. when a person dies, a library burns.
I would recommend inviting her to try some alternative methods of treatment to fight the cancer, along with standard western style meds. there are
many threads here on ATS on cancer "cures" and treatments that can be given a shot (so long as that is not the only treatment being given). Find
some and approach her and her doctor to see if any would be harmless to try given whatever treatment she is going through.
I personally don't believe in a God...would like some evidence before I die..or even a really cool personal experience to change my mind, but until
such a time, I will stick with non-belief in such a deity(s). I however have had some exceptionally cool "ghost" experiences...I do not claim to
know what a ghost is mind you, but if presented in the way it was is true, then I am open to discussions of a afterlife of some sort (even though it
makes no sense to me...but then again, calculus makes no sense to me either). I would venture to say to simply be open about such stuff, but don't
accept anyone's word for it without evidence.
Celebrate the years you have known her, carry her (and everyone you know) in your heart and in that respect, she will live as long as you or anyone
else knows her will.
Awhile back, I had a 19 year old friend die..beautiful girl, exceptionally smart, fun loving, etc. Cancer.
3 days before she died, all of us got together and gave her a traditional roast...with crude dark humor, insults, "hurry up and die so we can have
your sterio" type stuff...it was a blast and she couldn't thank us enough for giving her that.
of course, this played out in a virtual world environment, so she ended it by killing everyone.
Make her smile, don't deny the fight she has to deal with now and the outcome may be crap, just make what may be her last few days of life fun,
humorous, and accepting of lifes odd sense of humor. It will help both yourself and her through this time...and laugh at death..no need to go into it
shattered..much better with a smile.