Thanks....thanks a lot...stop ruining it for the rest of us!, page 1


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Topic started on 13-1-2011 @ 07:30 AM by mblahnikluver
Thanks to all the bad seeds who ruined it for those of the good seeds...I mean women.

Thanks to those who love to lie, cheat, use and manipulate. It makes it so much easier for me <-----saracasm!


Seriously I am pissed. I was in the best relationship and because of what women have done to him his entire dating life I have to be hurt when I wasn't the one who caused any hurt. How is that even fair? It's really frustrating when I am NOT one of those girls. I am one of the good ones and yes we DO exist, just like there are good guys..I know had one and he is amazing, he just needs to realize it and stop running from how he feels because of what someone else did. That is why you men are bitter, it's not fair to take it out on someone you know is not like that and will never hurt you.

I see people in the threads on here under "relationships" and how to do this or that and honestly it's really not that hard to really love and be with someone. People are so quick to point out the flaws and use those as an excuse as to why they dont like someone or want to be with them. They complain about what they don't do yet forget about all that they DO do. People are selfish today..If you communicate and can admit to your faults and flaws that is what matters...That is what I loved about my bf, we could do that and then joke about it later. He'd point out things he didnt' like as did I. It was said and accepted. He doesn't make the bed right but is it REALLY that big of a deal if a guy can't make the bed or doesn' like to watch chick flicks? No it really isn't yet both sides make it seem like it's some big deal. Relationships arent that difficult when you think about it. If you love someone you love ALL of them, quirks faults and all. Some people have a hard time admitting their own faults and accepting them let alone accepting anothers. People aren't perfect but if you are perfect in someone elses eyes that should matter. I guess I see the good in people more than most and I accept them for who they are.

Everyone on here is always bashing the other sex and how they dont do this or that but is it really that big of a deal. People dont compromise anymore, they are selfish and in a "me" world. I really wish I was born in another time for love. I would be better accepted and not feared by men..

I am a very passionate and strong person esp when it comes to love and I am not afraid to show it when I really feel it....and that has only been three times in my life.


Yes this is a rant and if it makes no sense...so what it's a RANT, do they ever?


reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 07:42 AM by Iamschist
reply to post by mblahnikluver


So sorry for your pain, been there done that. You are not alone.


reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 07:49 AM by DrumsRfun
reply to post by mblahnikluver


For some love can be seen like this......love is like abad steak,its rare its tough and hard to swallow.
Not everyone is willing to have that level of openess in acceptance.
Also remember people usually behave based on their experience and sometimes they aren't aware of that cycle they have created for themselves.
Its a defence mechanism.

To get back on topic...you know what they say.....it takes one moron to screw it up for everyone else.

I hope you start feeling better.


reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 07:56 AM by mblahnikluver
Originally posted by DrumsRfun
reply to post by mblahnikluver


For some love can be seen like this......love is like abad steak,its rare its tough and hard to swallow.
Not everyone is willing to have that level of openess in acceptance.
Also remember people usually behave based on their experience and sometimes they aren't aware of that cycle they have created for themselves.
Its a defence mechanism.


It is a defense mechanism. He is aware and admitted it, it just isn't fair to me. I know that is slightly selfish but he is being selfish as well.

He creates this himself, like i said we have discussed this. I get his past and he just needs to snap out of it and see not everyone is the same. I got time and that is fine with me. He knows it and that is what matters.


To get back on topic...you know what they say.....it takes one moron to screw it up for everyone else.

I hope you start feeling better.


That is so true! Thanks


reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 08:01 AM by Hefficide
reply to post by mblahnikluver


Mblah,

I might be publicly saying what I should have said privately to you. But cest la vie, the impulse leads me to do so here. For better or for worse.

Since the first day we spoke about this I have struggled to find words to say to you. I have struggled with the feeling of pain that not being able to find words is causing me. You are a dear friend to me and I very much empathize with your pain. I very much wish I knew how to make it better.

No matter how hard I want, the words just won't come. And for this I feel terrible and am so sorry.

My own world crumbled into a living nightmare a few years ago because I loved somebody who ran away. I spent the better part of that time waiting for her to come back. She didn't.

I spent the better part of those years telling my friends that they were wrong about my ex. They weren't.

There is no way for me to know, or to gauge your situation as I don't know you, other than in words written on this website, in chat, or on FB. And I don't know Ryan at all. So please don't think that I am saying I think your situation is or will be like mine.

But understand that I, with all my heart, pray that your situation and you do not. I just don't want to see you suffer or hurt and it drives me nuts that I can't seem to express this simple sentiment to you.

~Heff



reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 08:12 AM by mblahnikluver
reply to post by Hefficide


Awe Heff thanks. You are too kind.

Misoir thank you as well


You guys just made me cry but in a good way. You are some of the good guys.
*hugs*



I have time and he really is worth it. Most say its nuts but for once I am not going to do what I normally do. I broke too many rules to myself to be with him and I won't give up that easily...so if he needs time then fine. If it doesn't work then I can't help him. I loved him unconditionally he just needs to see that and I have done all I could to show it. He just needs to see it...Who knows what he will do a few weeks or a month or two from now. He knows I am not going anywhere. My life continues, just less chipper lol I hide it well in person which is probably a bad thing but I don't like people asking questions. Makes it easier I guess. He has it easy to where he wont be asked questions like I have been. It just makes it that much harder on me. He ran and I am left in the open to deal with it. Just sucks....


reply posted on 13-1-2011 @ 08:21 AM by mblahnikluver
Originally posted by Yissachar1
I know this is going to sound cruel, but even though I dont know you I DO know guys.

He has used you sweetheart.

This dirtbag filled your head with flowers and romance then when his time to leave came he threw out the old, its not you its me line.

Let me guess, he said stuff like "my ex's cheated and im too hurt still to be with you in case i hurt you"..

Too late!

He already did.

Whilst your head was getting filled with his bs, he was planning his escape.

He used you.

He is a total bastard and does not in a million years deserve you!

And if he WAS telling the truth (which i very much doubt), then you would have had a lucky escape from such a drama queen High maintanace and would hurt you because hurting people hurt people.

But as i said

I know guys.

You were used.

My advice is to get over this moron as best as you can, and get on with your life.

Please please please do not entertain this idiot again or you will be back at square one again and be walked over like a door matt.



You don't know men. Just because you are a man doesn't mean you know every guy out there. This is what I love about people, they make assumptions about things they don't know. I know not all men are idiots as I know not all women are liars and such.

He never walked over me and never lied. You don't know him like I do. Just because some guys do what you say it doesn't mean all do. That is MY point. No situation is the same.

I will do what he and I discussed and that is give him some time.

Don't people fight for love anymore?


Maybe that is why so many people are bitter and unhappy. They would rather give up than try and swallow their pride...

Thanks for your comments anyway.
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