What do you do when your relationship isn't enough anymore?

I know what you mean, sometimes what you feel may not be what your partner feels. Its worse when you want a difference, but they seem comfortable with the way things are.

I was in a relationship for many years, with a man that was the most boring person on the planet. I am adventurous and wanted to have fun, laughs, go play pool, or even have a picnic (in our room), I have kids and it was hard to get away, but I was willing.

I made suggestions, set up dates, I did all the work and still wound up sitting in my room by myself while he played video games, because he was full from the romantic dinner he just ate. So I went outside the relationship for a while, and I knew that I wasn't going to leave, so I discreetly moved on for several months.

We separated for a while, and when we finally talked I made him aware of my indiscretion, and told him that if he could name one time that I didn't try, we would never discuss it again.... well he couldn't. We tried again for a year and I just couldn't get over the fact that I was having a better time when he wasn't around.

We have remained friends, and I have chose to stay alone. Having that type of relationship and sticking it out, can tell you alot about the person that you are. I now know that I am more assertive then I thought, and that love for me is not just a word. That taking time and seeing someone for who they are can make a relationship easier on 2 people, as 1 is not trying to be someone else.

Good Luck in your relationship, I hope my story helped a little.

Peace, NRE.

BTW, communication is key. If you are expressing how serious you are about how you feel, and the result doesn't change, they may be being who they are also, you just have to figure out what YOU want next. If you make suggestions and their not interested, you cannot force someone to be who they are not, if you do, it will cause resentment and make things worse.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


I have to say, it's relaxing to unwind with a video game after work now and then...but I'd turn it off in a heartbeat to spend romantic time with my wife... Don't get guys that wouldn't... (and not just sex, but things like you mentioned, going out, having fun, etc.)

reply to post by ldyserenity


Try internet porn. If that fails, try a prostitute. If that doesn't do it for you, start a relationship with a married woman. (they don't call, write love notes, or follow you around)