Before i start i just wanted to apologize if this thread is all over the place. Whether it is read as religious, political, spiritual or economic melt
down i have a lot to say. While i may have a lot to say, i would appreciate any feedback, questions, opposing points of view or disagreements you
might have with my post.
Let me start with my story.
A little over 3 years ago my son was born. While his mother and i never married i took the idea of family more importantly than most i know. My new
born son, his mother and her daughter from another relationship lived in an upscale apartment building. Both the mother and i worked retail with long
hours and odd shifts. Approximately 6 months after my son was born i required surgery for a chronic condition which i have delt with my entire life.
The down time was to be 6 months. My insurance through work paid me 80% of my salary through this time period and i stayed home to take care of my son
and his mothers daughter. My sons mother continued to work. My days were filled with pain due to my medical issue but i somehow found it in me to
overcome and ensure my son was well taken care of along with his sister. The children became my life. Taking care of them was my job. A job i was
happier doing than any other job i've had before. Sure it was hard work, but extremely rewarding. This went on for six months, thorough the surgery,
the recovery and eventually i went back to work. Upon going back to work and getting back in touch i realized while i was in recovery things had
fallen apart. While out from work my sons mother would tell me she was working extra hours, had a meeting or was to tired to drive so she was not
coming home. Being a supportive partner i always bought this excuses and blindly trusted her in good faith. Eventually she left retail and landed a
government job with the help of some of her friends. From here on out, i no longer got phone calls when she was not coming home. There were many
nights where her daughter would ask me when i mommy going to be home and i would have to make something up about mommy being late due to traffic. It
was a sad situation and looking at it now i realize what was happening but then didn't and just continued trying to be the best father/boyfriend i
could be. I tried to speak with my sons mother, offered to go to counseling and tried everything in the book to put things back together only to fail.
My eyes were not opened as to what was going on until i came home to a eviction notice on the apartments front door. In a panic i called my best
friend and asked for his help to get all of our belongings into a storage shed. Once we did the next day i went to my bank to check my account. What i
found was shocking. In the 6 months i was out of work. My sons mother was in control of finances. In that time i do not know what she was doing with
my income but i wrongly assumed it was paying bills. To my surprise i found i was:
~ 3 months late on rent
~ 4 months late on car insurance (i was dropped at this point)
~ 3 months behind on Car payment
~ 2 months behind on cable and internet
~ 3 months behind on electric
~ 5 months behind on water and sewer
~ one of my credit cards maxed out
~ 3 months late on both cell phone payments
Adding up all my deposits from medical leave i discovered i had made close to 8k in those 6 months. Now all my money was gone and no bills were paid.
What made this worst was my incime tax refund of 8k also had been spent. My first thought was how could she do this to me? My 2nd thought was what the
hell is she doing with all this money? My sons mother at the time made close to 90k a year my salary was 70k. It's not like she was hurting.
Needless to say i started talking to a lawyer because i could see what was happening. For about 2 more months i put up with my sons mother coming and
going as she pleased. Fought tooth and nail to pay rent and support her daughter and my son until enough was enough. The straw that broke the camels
back came when i cut off her access to my bank card. Immediately she attempted to withdraw all money i had from my bank account but failed. Next thing
i knew she stopped calling, completely stopped coming home. A few times i was forced to call out of work on days she was suppose to be off work
because i needed to be with the children who were 9 years old and 9 months old at the time since she was not there. Soon there after she started
taking her daughter with her to a friend's house during weekends. Finally enough was enough. I was starting to get into some trouble at work due to my
constant need to call out from having no one to watch my son. His mother was unreliable and to my knowledge had a alcohol addiction and perhaps (just
guessing) drug addiction. Once i realized she was not going to accept help, i took my son and stooped at a friend's house. Once his mother realized i
was no longer living at the apartment (approximately a week), she started freaking out. Telling me she wanted to see our son, but at this point i
didn't feel safe with that. She then started showing up at family and friends houses telling them i kidnapped our son and would not let her see him.
Every time i spoke with her she sounded drunk. One night it came to a head and she had her lawyer step in, like wise did mine. I was told at this
point she had moved in with one of her friends and that i needed to allow her to have my son by my lawyer or a judge would not look at me favorably in
court. I agreed and both lawyers came to a agreement that my son would be able to go with his mother and stay with her 3-4 days a week. Basically a
joint good faith agreement. Not happy with this but afraid i would get in trouble and not be able to see my son due to court i agreed. Little did i
know it would be over a month before i saw my son again. After a stressful month and a half, my life fell apart. I stepped down from my management
position at work due to stress and moved into a lower paying less demanding supervisor position. I got myself a little apartment and lived off ends
meet. I had anxiety attacks on a nightly basis and stayed up for hours upon end on the internet researching legal rights. Eventually my lawyer reached
a good faith agreement and for a year straight my sons mother and i split visitation 50/50. 2 days prior to our court date for custody (10,000 in
legal bills later) my lawyer told me she reached a settlement with the opposing lawyer. She ten tried to talk me into seeing my son twice a week,
paying no child support and giving up legal and sole physical custody. I declined. My lawyer did not agree with my decision but went back to the
drawing board and finally came back and told me the opposing lawyer was drafting an agreement with 99% of what i wanted in place with was joint/joint
rotating 3 days 4 nights a week. I said ok and court was canceled literally on the court house steps. A few days later i was called to my lawyers
office to sign the agreement. While going over the agreement i found nothing was changed. The agreement had my sons mother with soul legal and joint
physical. I refused to sign it. Unfortunately at this point i was out of money. Lost my apartment, moved in with my grandmother and lost my lawyer due
to finances. Luckily i was able to steal 2 more months with my son prior to his mother discovering my lawyer was no longer representing me. At this
point she started with holding again. At this point i decided to cash in my 401k to get another lawyer. I figured since the first one was lower priced
that i would go with the best of the best to get things done and over with. 20 thousand dollars later on top of the 13 thousand for the first lawyer,
i was back to square one. The second lawyer burned through my $20,000 in a little under 2 months. While i admit she did get me back on track with
seeing my son, she did more damage than good. Eventually i ran out of money again. This past March my sons mother enrolled my son into a Montessori
school with at my permission or knowledge. Our agreement at this time was i had my son Friday through Monday. One day prior to me having my son i
received an email from her stating he would be starting school and needed to be returned home Sunday night and that form this point forward i would
only have home Saturdays and Sundays. Upset with this is refused to give him back (he was 2 at this point). My lawyer called me and told me i had to
or she would stop representing me due to the fact that i had moral high ground that i would lose if i kept my son. I let her bully me gave in and gave
my son back. Little did i know i would not see him for 4 months. Once again at this point i was broke. I ended up obtaining a pro se lawyer through my
benefit's at work and since march have paid him 15 thousand dollars. We had a court date scheduled in October which was abandoned due to flooding at
the court house. My sons mother has moved over an hour away and between now and March the best thing we could work out visitation wise consisted of me
driving 2 hours to see my son in a public place for 2 hours then driving two hours home twice a week. After 2 months of that i was able to start
keeping my son over night from Saturday at 4pm until 10 a.m. Sunday morning.
My reason in typing this is that my court date is next week. My current lawyer is doing a lot of back pedaling. He has offered me a settlement of
seeing my son every other weekend in which i which i declined. Now my sons mother is also coming after me for back child support from his birth. Keep
in mind up until this march i pretty much had him 3-4 nights a week. The good news is our latest visitation agreement signed by a judge was violate by
her on several occasions and i have filed for contempt of court.
So where does conspiracy fit into all of this?
Why do i need your help?
First off any help or kind words at this point can only do good.
Second my son is my life. My sun in the sky. I will fight to the death for him.
What are your thoughts on this?
Of course i have shortened this story and left a lot our but you get the general idea my sons mom is crazy! Is it fair for her to have my son more
just because she is a woman?
Conspiracy and my Beliefs
America......we pride ourselves on the saying words like freedom, liberty and justice yet we as Americans are all but these things. Your typical
average Joe American is a sheep in a large heard. Our government likes it that way. Even your average Joe American likes it that way. You see us
Americans are slaves. Our government has taught us to over look the responsibilities of freedom. We careless go to the poles and vote in corrupt
elected officials into office who wage wars with other countries, prop up a broken legal system and punish those who stand up to them. The rest of the
world is mad at us and they should be. Americans as a whole are currently equivalent to a drunk driver. All we are worried about is American Idol,
Jersey Shore and reality tv, not the havoc our government is causing at home and around the rest of the world. Sadly enough but warranted we will pay
in due time.
Now where does this fit into my story. Well ill explain.
You see as i said before my son is the most important thing in my life. I would die for him and will die fighting for him if i have to. Currently
America's court systems are bias and typically give the mother a win in the court room when it comes to separation and divorce unless you can really
prove something is wrong and the child is in danger. There is no fairness or justice, only a predetermined outcome Judges use to decide on matters
like this. I realize my day in court is coming up. I know in my heart and soul my son deserves equal time with me. As a true American i will not allow
a corrupt legal system to take my son from me or make it so i can only see him every other weekend.
With that being said.....what other options do i have?
What do i do if i go into the court room and the judge decided to take the easy way out? As a true American i will stand up and fight for my son's
freedom and liberties. I will fight for my legal and GOD GIVEN right to see and be with my son!
According to my lawyer, things are looking pretty bleak. He does not think i will get joint, joint. He believes i will get stuck with back child
support. He also believes i will only see my son every other weekend. If this happens i will devote my life to destroying the legal system in America
as we know it. I have already started working on a website for fathers rights. I've read numerous books and I'm ready to go but hope it is not
If i lose my son, i will lose all faith in America and will do whatever i must to destroy this corrupt society in which the rest of the world already
see's and my eyes have been recently opened to. A true American fights for freedom and truth. I'm a true American, not just another sheep in the
To everyone outside of America i apologize for what my brother and sisters in this country have allowed to happen to you. To all the active military
currently tricked into following orders form a corrupt government i wish you the best and hope your eyes will open to as to who your leaders really
As everyone can tell i have a lot more to write and discuss........ i just need to get this out there for now and see where it goes......... ill cont.
please give me any suggestions or thoughts or questions. I need your help thinking things through
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