Originally posted by torque
I don't have children, and if I did, I'd make sure they don't end up with the struggle I'm currently in. I'm not an excuse maker.
Well good for you for saying that if you did have kids, not too many obese/fat people would say that... Your excuse making however was just that if
you read your above post, bringing other exterior circumstances or other people's issues into this argument does not justify anything, just shifts
the blame on over to someone so you don't have to take responsibility.
Are you fat/obese ( I don't know which I should call you, obese if you want me to be pc, of fat if I can just say it like it is) because your parents
How come you've gone all these years without losing weight? Have you seen a doc? Meds? Healthy diet/exercise?
Who are you to scold? If you're so worried about it, why not offer solutions that aren't laced with insult and hatred?
Well if you read my above post you would see I offer solutions without being insulting... You seem to be very negativistic, hostile, defiant,
argumentative, easily annoyed, and lose your temper easily, especially if one doesn't see your point the way you want them too.... There's no need
to carry this attitude. I'd suggest some behavioural therapay... If you react this way on the outside I can just imagine how you are on the inside,
and that plays a very big part in your health... Not to mention i'd say your holding on to hurt in your past...
Who am I to scold? I'm a regular person with regular basic beliefs. I believe that people should be more responsible for themselves rather then
falling victim and blaming their condition on other people... If you grew up big, I can only guess your parents did't teach proper nutrition and as a
result, look what happens. I was fat for awhile there after I stopped working out and eating healthy, i got down on myself, but I never placed blame,
it was my own damn fault so i pulled up my pants and worked it off...
Some people just aren't blessed with that though, I understand there are people out there who have an actual obesity disesase , although i'm not so
sure about you...
Although what I would do with you is take you to see a doc who can tell you you have a problem with your cingulate system, which you obviously have,
write you up a script and see how you are in a month... I bet you'd change your attitude real fast..
Because offering solutions is not what this is about. This is about people attacking other people. It doesn't matter how much I work to
resolve my problem, I'm still attacked because people take me at face value and know nothing about me personally.
Half true... SOME people think 'gosh, why don't wolf down another big mac'
while some will say 'that person is obviously not happy on the inside'
Just how hard are you working to resolve your problem anyway? And what problem do you think you have?
So no, it's not just a case of the stereotypical insult of "shoving big macs down your throat". I'd get the same stupid, insensitive
judgemental reaction from you if I'd just finished a small salad and bottle of water and was on my way to the gym
There you go playing the fortune teller again... Stop it... ok, stop thinking you have psychic abilities, you don't know... i wouldn't shout an
insult at you if I saw you eating a small salad and a bottle water, i wouldn't, i would think that you were on the right track, give you a smile and
think to myself, thats a girl who's doing the right thing... Not just for your self esteem but for your body's well being and your spirit.. So you
Your thinking from a negative emotional state of mind, when you are sad (over active limbic system) you are likely to interpret neuutral events
through a negative filter like you just did. The deep limbic system and deep temporal lobes stores highly charged emotional memories, really, go see
a therapist who understands this... Your on the war path my friend and you don't need to be anymore, your doing a great job "working" to defeat a
problem thats been with you for years... It's time to stop being so angry...
heal those emotional memories, you aren't one of those people who abuse your children with food and yourself, your past that, stop thinking your part
of that group because you are still big. Those people that we're talking about obviously don't know, they aren't educated, and they aren't doing
anything about it like you are...
Yes, I know people who have fat kids and they themselves are overweight and I ask them "what the hell are you doing??"
See your beyond them, your smarter then they are, why are you sticking up for them? They don't know what they are doing, thats why people get pissed
off, it's a natural response, you just basically did what I and some other people on here do... We're not talking about you.. We're talking about
those people that you just mentioned above...
As far as pointing to other bad behavior to justify anyone else's, that wasn't the point at all and I'd suggest re-reading it to get it. Or
don't. I don't think anyone wants to get it, really. Just keep taking cheap shots so you can feel good about yourself in your gleaming
Ok for the last time, quit playing mind reader... Again, you don't know what other people are thinking.You can't read other people's minds, you
never know what others are really thinking unless they tell you.. And i'll tell you, I get no satisfaction out of taking cheap shots... Your thinking
with your feelings, which is never a good thing to do... Why?
Because many people believe their negative feelings without questioning them like what you just did. Feelings are very complex and often based on
powerful memories from the past.