Originally posted by open_eyeballs
reply to post by open_eyeballs
I am more concerned with the client/ agent relationship. Not as much the employer/ employee relationship
That's where a lot of people are missing the boat here; they're taking it personally. The employer/employee relationship is covered by a myriad of
laws which govern how you are allowed to treat each other. Many of these laws deal with discrimination. Where it was once the case that discrimination
laws dealt with things you cannot change, e.g. race, today discrimination laws creep into areas of choice.
But a client/agent relationship is, at least at this stage, voluntary. The agent is seeking to recruit the client as a customer. In theory, both
parties seek to gain from the relationship. As an agent, by and large, you cannot force a prospective client to become a customer. In fact, he can
discriminate against you if he wants to, though he may not be able to say why.
Now, there are certain things you simply cannot help: Your height, your sex, your race. Sometimes those attributes can help you; sometimes they will
hinder you. I have a cousin who is 6' 10" tall. A male has a distinct and proven advantage by being taller--to a certain point (about 6'5"), but
over that, it's a hindrance. It's intimidating. Because of his great height my cousin is somewhat socially handicapped. It's not something he can
help, but it hinders him in his business dealings. People have to "get over" the fact that he is tall before they can calm down and face the
Another factor is whether you are beautiful/handsome or (cough) ugly. You know you've seen beautiful women who have the brains behind them in their
profession can do very very well for themselves because their sexual charm attracts people to them. I've seen women use this to be very manipulative
and devious. On the other hand, many beautiful women do no such thing and are very straightforward. I can't speak to handsome versus ugly men here. I
suspect it is the same.
So now we come to things you CAN control, and tattoos (and piercings) fall into that category. Here a client's reactions become cultural really fast.
I met a couple of Maori women at a conference recently. At first I was just puzzled, then I realized they were from New Zealand. They were very
pleasant, but had very formal tattoos all over their faces and lips. Well, that's a Maori custom. In fact, these women may have had no choice in the
matter and received these tattoos as children. As a potential client would I shun them? Of course not!
Another example. Let's say I hired a financial advisor to manage my fortune (Insert laughter here), then I saw him in the gym and discovered he has a
USMC globe and anchor on his bicep. Would I then feel uneasy with him? Not no, but Hell, No! My brother was in the Marines. I know what they are like,
Duty & Honor are part of their character. Had my brother been wounded in combat, any Marine would have gotten him out of harm's way at the risk of
his own life. My opinion of Marines is that they are of a high character. I would trust him more, not less.
So it boils down to what tattoos you have. If you have visible tattoos advertising the drug culture, satanism, goth culture, skulls, and other things
depicting an anti-establishment point of view, that would put me off. If you were covered in tattoos, that would tell me you are obsessed with them,
and that would put me off. My choice. Doesn't matter if you consider that unfair. One more story.
My tattoo is of "Captain High," the man depicted on a pack of zig-zag cigarette papers. The whole issue is about smoking pot, of course. It's a
'drug culture' tattoo. I got it when I was in the Navy. Years later I went through pilot training school. One of the requirements was a physical. It
was a rinky dink physical, but the idea was they didn't want you having a heart attack in the air. Part of this physical was to strip to your
underwear. The Doctor zeroed in on the tattoo.
"What is this?:" he demanded. I told him it was a "French farmer." He didn't buy it. He quizzed me some more because, I believe, he knew exactly
what it was and what it represented and if I were a pot smoking kind of guy, that was grounds to refuse me my pilot's license. I was kind of
desperate there so I told him, "Look. I was in the Navy. One weekend all the guys piled into a chevy and drove to this tiny tattoo parlor in Geneva,
Wisconsin. Everyone got tattoos and they were spending $40-$50 even $75 for then (in 1971) "Death before Dishonor" with a sailor dripping blood on
an anti-aircraft gun as he was killed in action--that sort of thing. I didn't want to spend that kind of money and, frankly, this was the cheapest
one they had for only $10, so that's what I got and everyone thought it was cool, so I passed the sailor initiation test. I'm cheap and thought it
was a waste of money to spend two week's salary on an expensive tattoo. That's all."
So I got my pilot's license. The doc let me go, but that was very close. And that's a very good example of the issues here.