posted on Jan, 1 2011 @ 06:56 PM
When I was a young man I wore my hair down to my waist. I resented people who "judged me" because I thought it should not matter. I also resisted
wearing a suit & tie. I considered it restricting, expensive, and bowing to conformity. I grew of age in the sixties, the Woodstock generation.
Then one day an older gentleman sat me down and said, "Look. A suit & tie does not mean you conform. That's not the point. It makes you a social
equal. If two people meet and both are wearing a conventional suit & tie, then baring any other give-aways, neither knows the social status of the
other. You don't know whether the other guy comes from a rich family or a poor one. You don't know if he went to Harvard or Whatsamattah U. You
don't know if he is a conservative or a liberal. Unless you otherwise give it away, at least you start on an equal basis."
He also told me, "Besides, you are wearing a uniform on your sleeve. You're giving away your politics, your attitude, and your overall approach to
society just by the way you dress."
The idea of "suit = equality" had never occurred to me. I hadn't ever thought about it that way. Yet it made perfect sense to me. It's just one
less pre-judgment made about you that gives you a better chance to pull off what you want to (sell stuff, for example). I guess people, such as
myself, are not willing to hear this advice until they are ready to. It took me awhile and on hindsight, I wish I had understood the issue much
earlier. I say that selfishly because it would have saved me a lot of grief.
Just my personal experience. Of course, I'm retired now and never wear a suit--and I still have my tattoo, though it isn't quite as bright as it was
forty years ago. My hair is short, too, but (cough) I really had no choice! Sometimes nature makes those kind of choices for you.