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But marriage, at the end of the day IS a religeous thing, and whilst it may not be right, as love is love regardless, it is still frowned upon in christianity.
Originally posted by wayno
reply to post by AceWombat04
Its my belief that a lot of people struggling against their inner feelings, do in fact focus on their behaviour as the only thing that they can control. They most likely wish that everyone would make the same effort -- misery loves company sort of thing.
What a horrible shame that such people might go their entire lives living a lie. Never being able to give expression to the love one feels inside for another has to be a horrible existence. I have no problem with putting a check and limits on feelings of lust -- I have no sympathy for promiscuity by anyone -- but love between two adults should never have a carpet thrown over it to hide it. No life should be lived devoid of it.
Originally posted by wayno
reply to post by woogleuk
Please give me one reason why I should give a damn about what somebody's religion says when I am not a subscriber to that religion?
Beautiful point....thank you. You just perfectly mirrored what straights feel about the homosexual lifestyle. We can go home now!
Originally posted by Gseven
You read into all that WAY too much! Somehow, I knew someone would.
I made the choice to be straight on more than one occasion....meaning, I've been "propositioned" quite a few times in my life. Every time, I politely declined.
And no, I never said I WANTED to engage in gay sex....what I said was that I could have gone down that "curious" rode if I had chosen to, like several of my friends did.
There is a distinction between engaging in homosexual or heterosexual sexual activity, and being homosexual or heterosexual. I can choose to not eat chocolate cake. I cannot choose not to like chocolate cake.
Originally posted by Gseven
So my question is....if gays are so certain that what they're doing is right, then why the need to constantly shove it down everyone's throat and debate it until we all would rather go shove our heads into a big pile of elephant pooh, just to get away from it?
As far as your last comment to me, that's pretty absurd considering my spouse, our kids and our grandkids are the greatest blessings in my life. I've had a long, blissful, eventful marriage that I wouldn't trade for the world. There is nothing I'd EVER want more....in fact, there is nothing more I want period. My spouse is reading this, laughing along with me....if you only knew! Merry Christmas anyway....that wasn't a threat.edit on 25-12-2010 by Gseven because: typo
Originally posted by Calender
I agree that there are people that are born with a propensity for the same sex. Just like their are people that are born with the propensity to violence, and others with the propensity to become addicted.
What you seem to be missing is that we all have freewill and the ability to control our emotions. Just because someone may have a propensity to violence, that does not give him an excuse to be abusively violent toward other people, he does have the choice to control his violent tendencies. Just as a person that has an addictive personality does have the ability to choose not to involve themselves in activities that may be addictive to them, whether it be gambling, smoking, whatever.
Your argument is that because a person is born with such a propensity they should show no self-control, and must give in to their base urges, is that really a valid justification? While one may empathize for the plight of that person, and understand that fighting his impulses toward a certain character flaw may be a hard struggle, they do have the ability to do so. And those that do are to be commended.
Originally posted by 547000
reply to post by Sinnthia
Being attracted to children is not a choice either.
Originally posted by Gseven
reply to post by AceWombat04
There is a distinction between engaging in homosexual or heterosexual sexual activity, and being homosexual or heterosexual. I can choose to not eat chocolate cake. I cannot choose not to like chocolate cake.
Not true. Learned behaviors most certainly can be unlearned. How did you learn to like chocolate cake to begin with? You tried it. You liked it. You associated it with pleasure. Badda boom....you now like chocolate cake. That is a learned behavior. Had you never tried it, you wouldn't know you liked it. It may have LOOKED good, but unless you tried it, you'd never know for sure. Heterosexuals can just as easily be "turned" gay by the same notion, and homosexuals have been "reversed" by this same notion. It is a learned behavior that can most certainly can be reversed.