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Originally posted by hawkiye
Originally posted by Bachrk
Originally posted by halfoldman
I like to live my life honestly and openly.
Now a best friend has betrayed her husband.
What is worse, most of us know this guy.
I think people stand and lie before God when they make their wedding vows.
It is forbidden to sleep with a married woman.
Tonight I told somebody.
Lord help me.
Do people who get married and commit adultery actually realize what they do to the people around them?edit on 18-12-2010 by halfoldman because: (no reason given)
All I know is the pain never subsides. The devastating effects change a person forever. It leaves a hollow spot inside that, try as you may, never fills. "They" and their egos destroyed something beautful and childlike inside me. I will never be the person I once was.
My mother and sister only knew and they too were completely thrown off guard as well. The first thing they asked through tears was "when did he have the time? You two were always together" He showed NO signs. Still bought home flowers, no working late, no bedroom issues, no new dressing style or cologne,
Only ONE moment of the day unaccounted for...His 5am gym time. Egos run high there I suppose.
The pain can subside and the rift can even be healed. it takes time and effort but most never try hard enough or long enough because when it happens the pain is so great they can't conceive of it ever going away.. But trust can be restored and it can be as if it never happened. You don't just stop loving someone like a a switch or you never truly loved them in the first place. If you still love the person and focus on that instead of the deed it can be overcome that is if the person also wants to overcome it. And they only do if they truly love you and feel teh pain of their deed for it hurts to the one who committed it as much as to thier spouse.
it is really a selfish act and a lack of control over the lower nature or baser desires, animal instincts, etc.
Originally posted by bigyin
reply to post by ChaosMagician
are you on drugs or something ?
your not making any sense
Originally posted by thetruedank
i suppose it depends on what type of paradigmn you wish to trap yourself in. obviously people should be honest but people also shouldnt feel restricted from following their hearts
Do people who get married and commit adultery actually realize what they do to the people around them?
Originally posted by queenofsheba
Maybe he betrayed her first. A little bit of neglect here and there, an unkind word, ignoring her, not respecting her. It's hard to tell without the full details of both parties involved. What an elixir to be told you're beautiful, smart and worthy and desired.