reply to post by halfoldman
well i think people should always be honest, not just in marriage but relationships in general.
the feeling of betrayel by someone you trusted is not nice, and if there are kids involved then it is tripled, maybe more.
there is no excuse for having affairs, i think the people that do it only ever think of themselves, and the only time they are sorry is when they are
caught, they were happy whilst they were getting the best of both worlds, then are sorry when they are losing it.
there are two ways to look at it, one is that somebody you trusted did this and your angry and upset. the other way to look at it is that it could be
a blessing in disguise, if somebody does commit adultery, they obviously do not love you or are trustworthy, who would want to be with somebody like
that? now you know, you can move on,
rebuild your life and when the time is right find somebody who you can trust and love and know you will get the same back.
speaking from experience, i had a relationship that ended like this, i was deverstated at first, but i moved on, i started to understand, it was no my
fault, she did not desreve me, that i was better off alone, than to be with somebody who could treat me in such a manner. i moved on, enjoyed myself,
and eventually met my current partner, and i am happy, we have been together 8 years now. this could not of happened without the original break up,
it turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
i know your friend will be deverstated, but if there is one thing that i could say it would be, keep your head up, it is not nice but it is not the
end of the world either, things happen for a reason, and it is better to know who you can trust and who you cannot, rather than live with someboy who
will treat you in such a manner.