reply to post by hotbakedtater
Having worked in a corporate environment for more than two decades with most of that time in a management position, I have confronted this issue many
times and have talked with women, men, HR departments as well as internal and external counsels regarding lawsuites. Here's where I come down on
1. Perceptions are reality. With the vast majority of communication being non-verbal, attire and body language is a significant medium of
communication in any environment, especially a closed one like an office. You are always better off from an advancement perspective by stressing the
quality of your work, rather than your physical attributes. In other words, you should not do anything that detracts from the quality of your work,
be it cleavage, visible tattoos, piercings, gold teeth, etc. They are all the same.
2. Women with nice bodies can effectively dress to show them off in ways that are far more seductive than simply showing off a ton of cleavage.
Sexy, attractively dressed women tend to see more rapid advancement in the work place, especially in client facing roles.
3. To the extent that women are held back, and I believe they are, it is more due to the fact that because they are attractive, men don't want they
out of their immediate office environment. If you come to work in a job you are not crazy about and one of the things you have to look forward to is
the beautiful girl who shows a ton of cleavage, you are not incented to give her a promotion or recommend her for one that takes her out of your daily
environment. Is that right? No, but it happens.
4. In the several dozen cases of this nature I have dealt with, the complaining party was more likely a women than a man. I ran an organization
that had a wide age span of professionals. Complaints about attractive young women always came from older, typically over-weight women. When
confronted with "we have an issue with a young woman on your team" comment from HR I would respond with "which 40+ woman in ill-fitting stretch
pants is offended this time?" In just about every case, there was absolutely no issue with the young woman's dress or behavior the issue was
5. I never encountered a situation where a woman was deemed unqualifed because she was attractive, had a great body or showed it off. She might
have been thought to have poor taste, and might even get a bit of coaching, but I never experienced one being held back
At the end, be happy with yourself and dress to accentuate your assets in a professional way. If you are working at a quality place with decent
people, it should not be a problem