posted on Jul, 13 2004 @ 02:11 PM
I see this was posted a bit ago, so hopefully you're feeling better now... or at least have better perspective. There's no way you can f up
EVERYTHING you do. Don't be so hard on yourself. Take it apart and see what you could have done differently. It looks from your post that you have
a new girlfriend now. Maybe you're not ready for another girlfriend, even if 4 months seems like plenty long enough. Beating yourself up like this
is going to be detrimental to you working your way through the things that are eating you up. Please don't. Give yourself a break, back up and take
a look at the big picture, and proceed from there. Make yourself a plan.
It might seem dumb, but when I had a job troubleshooting, I'd break down my problems the same way as the manuals broke down the formats for fixing
things. Put down the problem... ask yourself if it's fixable. If yes, then go to the next step, if no, then drop it and move to the next problem.
Troubleshoot it like you would if trying to fix a car or computer or something. You'd be surprised how far you can get if you stop hitting yourself
over the head. Hang in there and give it your best shot.