reply to post by PsychNurse
I mentored a twelve year old boy for a year at the request of his grand parents who were raising him.
He was certainly a problem child for them.
Not for me. ( thats not a boast)
He was on Ritalin which he hated
This caused half of his problem toward the authority in his life.
Many of his restrictions were for the authority in his life, and not for him, and he knew it.
I treated him as an equal, he was very bright and mainly owing to the remote location.
We did all the " bigbrother" or "father son" things things.
shot the pellet gun
played video games
had the odd second double double helping of ice cream...
let him pick the movies
The grand parents still have me as a house guest for fishing and hunting
and they tell me he really looks forward to it
and so do I
because he teaches me stuff he has learned and he is excellent company
( this makes him really happy)
he was VERY reactive to BS
and he was getting handed loads of it because of his disfunctional familly
so they put him on the ritalin because he stood up to it
of course his druggy (non custodial) father liked the ritalyn too
A handful of families like that keep a lot of people employed in very nice paying jobs
where you never actually have to produce results to justify the pay.
and that is part of the problem too
very little if any was about curing the kid.
let me say this:
EVERY success whether it was
ten pellets standing in the bull at 25 yards, open sights,
the 5.2 Lb black Bass,
learning a new heavy riff on the guitar
or kicking my butt in HALO or COD
resulted in him behaving like a responsible adult for days
there is no pill for lonely