I can only answer for myself and I am a 58 year old woman who has been married to the same person for over 36 years.
It all depends on who you marry pure and simple.
Marriage an abomination?
That is for each person to decide and to be respected for their decision. Times are changing and humankind is evolving in many ways in regard to
relationships and commitment.
Some will chose a mate that is their same sex (soul has no color or gender).
Some will chose to have multiple partners.
Some will chose not to commit to anyone
Some will chose the traditional opposite sex partner and try to commit to that one special someone.
I've noticed a trend now days for young women to want the fancy princess "marriage ceremony" and "baby experience" solely for the experience without
regard to the real commitment a traditional marriage calls for. You see this being promoted on TV by Bridezilla, Fantastic Wedding Cakes and all
these other "reality shows" catering to just the marriage ritual where as the bride can be "queen for a day".
Our society has become very superficial and decadent just like the Romans right before the fall of Rome.
I read an article years back about the Chinese having a one baby per couple policy and how it has affected their social structure. The article was
called, "Spoiled Baby Syndrome" and dealt with people having an only child tended to spoil their child and that child growing up a very spoiled and
I think that is what has happened to our youth today.
Most young people now, sadly live in one parent homes and have never had the experience of watching two people really having to work out their
differences (compromise), letting the other person get their way 50% of the time or more.
Most younger people now have all the physical goodies, xboxes, ipods, cell phones, their own room, their own private bath, cars at 16 and yet there is
no parent around to guide them. They learn that instant gratification is the be all and end all.
Many children now are left alone after school once they hit 10-11 and the TV is raising them, instilling Hollywood's warped values of being pretty,
stupid, non thinking and narcissistic.
Being mean and selfish is now considered "cool". Look at the role models, Paris Hilton, Lindsey Lohan and Britney Spears.
No, in my opinon, marriage is not an abomination, to me anyway, it's the joining of two souls into one. Waking up everyday to your best friend,
sharing lifes journey, having another shoulder to cry on and another pair of arms to help pull you up when you fall and being able to help that person
up when they fall as well...............someone that you can depend on and trust and they can depend and trust you as well.
My husband isn't a smooth talker, he isn't the most romantic person but he has always been there for me and of all the men on earth, I feel very
fortunate to be married to him.
As a side note: I was born out of wedlock. I never knew my father's people, half of my heritage was lost to me. That is not right. Family is
important. The family unit is what makes us human and one of our most important strengths. All children should be allowed to know both sides of
their heritage, mother and father. I speak as a paternal grandmother who deeply loves her grand daughter and am very thankful each time we are
I sometimes wonder if the breaking up of the family unit by the corporations and TPTB aren't being done on purpose?
You break down that family unit, you break down the society and each person then becomes "every man for himself".
I suspect, the breakdown of the family unit is very intentional for the family unit is one of humanity's greatest strengths.
Where I use to work at, so many young people lived by themself, alone or with another room mate to share expenses, a business agreement, nothing
For me, marriage has been a real wonderful experience.
My biggest fear is that he goes before me. I do not fear death, but I do fear waking up and him not being beside me.
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