All nighter last night as evident in my prior posts.
I always remind myself I shouldn't write when I'm tired though I don't always listen.
Just kinda happens though I'm sure I'm not alone.
Anyhow, I don't believe trust should be such an issue if the relationship is based on some solid ground. My wife, knows I mean well and don't hassle
the ladies but Do appreciate their company and encourage our ladyfriends to come on by time to time, come on by. Looking forward to it. I've known
them all for about 7 years now, all cute or special in their own way though it's often the distance that counts. lol
Sometimes it takes time for one to change their ways and learn to adjust to 'living' with a new person. It takes alot of communication, understanding
and.....love. Baggage is just that, baggage, don't carry it around the rest of your life, try to 'learn' from it, dump it, where blinders if you have
to, just let it go. Too many folks out there lugging around beasts of their own burden. One has a responsibility to themself and their partner to
not be 'lame' please, no lameness for there's too much competition and few reruns.
If you really love your partner, you should be willing to make concessions, cooperate, find a solution or take a five minute break and try again
hopefully with some kind of creative solution that works for your lover=wife/ladyfriend/acquaintance. That's the way I break it down and try to
respect the boundaries though I'm a touchy feely loving fellow and like to spread the pleasure where/when appropriate while respecting one's limits.
If you can make someone shiver, quiver or glow in the dark, hey good for you, good for them, win win. Touch, cuddles goes along way in my opinion and
as long as one respects the boundaries, they could get 'all kinds' of attention.
My wife and I trust each other after 7 years of marriage with precious baby Emma in tow to make it that much more interesting and fun. I'm lucky for
I have a very understanding wife and we're both very attracted to each other after all this time, more so in my opinion as time moves on. She's not
perfect for myself though no one is or should be, we learn from all of our partners as we should. NXT.....
Marriage (my second) is not easy at times though well worth it, it's nice to have someone waiting for you at home especially if you enjoy their
company. If we have nothing to say, watching her little idiosynchrosies is funny enough. I enjoy the company of certain ladies and do what I can to
keep it coming. Everything else is just a distraction or bowe on that present, if you ask me. Like to keep it 'warm' and cuddly, it works for me.
The Action can come when it may, patience has it's own rewards as with trust and respect, all three vital in any relationship. Good friends are hard
to find so when you find one, why cut the line if it's a keeper? Put some fuel on that fire and if it makes you hot don't forget to 'go' for
it.....or not. Too many folks blow too many 'moments' if you ask me. Why waste the chance to make a spark or two without the lameness. I'm all for
folks having a good time with one another as long as they 'do no harm' and to 'never take from another that which the other is not freewilled to
give'. Works for me most of the time just as another.
If folks want to spy on one another it usually comes to light in time and stays in the conscious as ammo for another day. Not worth it if you ask me
unless it becomes a serious concern for future consequences. I'm very open and my wife knows me pretty well so I'm don't feel the need to hide
anything. She knows I like to meet the ladies, hang out and chat, maybe some respectful well meaning touch here or there without showing any
disrespect, just enjoy each others company as any adult should while respecting the boundaries. I'm ok with my wife visiting her old boyfreind every
few months or so though I've met him, trust him and my wife and understand their freindship. Not worried at all though my wife is too precious to do
something sexual behind my back. They don't have that kind of attraction anymore, more like a personal crutch in a time of need. Besides his
ladyfriend is like a cat, if something 'did' happen, I'd know or hear about it since I know them both well.
If someone did find themselves in a 'moment' with another, I don't see any reason to report to your significant other. Rather, move on, try and learn
from the experience and seek more without settling with another that may compete with your wife/other woman.
Some relationships are not meant to be for a lifetime lol, that's just silly to assume and totally unrealistic. Whether a week, month, year or more,
it is what it is, perhaps it's time to move on till one finds a keeper that's 'right' for them. I like all kinds of women though tend to end up with
the sweet, innocent, clean variety that can carry on a conversation and has a clue of what they're talking about.
Every relationship is unique and requires a unique solution.
I've been pretty lucky so far though I'm careful who I choose to be with.
The eyes don't lie, it's what's behind them that's worth the time.
It this helps someone, awesome, if not, oh well, so be it.
Folks write novels about the love business though can't beat experience, feels much better too.
I certainly don't 'talk' as I write here on ATS for here I try to stay more formal, while trying not to go overboard with the expression bit. Alot is
going on in the world in the present and near future so I find it necessary to attempt to stay ahead in the game. Hey if folks feel they can tap into
another power, whether found inside or outside of 'yourself' and express it here for all to see and reflect, so be him/her, that's the point.
Unfortunately most folks are not very receptive to bad news and would prefer not to hear it day after day, week after week regardless of how important
one feels the information is. I find this difficult to manage as I want to help my friends/family to stay informed so they may be more likely to make
the right decisions based on the right information at the right time. Some folks just don't want their nests shaken so you have take care as to what
you send what you don't. Suppose that's all I have to say for now.
If you ask me, the kiss is where it's at.
The 'glow' is the confirmation, the glOry of it all.
Feeling that way at the moment though I'm not alone, just in the other room now, 'content', waiting for my heart to settle, cooling off a bit while
enjoying the post re>lease peace.
Time to blow a ring or two and hit the sack folks.
Sometimes I spend entirely too much time in here looking for more, waiting, anticipating.....you know. lOl, it's all for a Reason. Always is I
suppose with the proof being one's pudding. Folks come in all flavors, good thing we're not all chasing the same one's, well, some ones'.
A relationship the reward.
Ah, that's enough.
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