I don't know exactly why, but I'm OFFENDED at the idea that I am *forced* to be polite to people!!!!!!! ARRRRRRGGGHHHHHHH!!!
Just kidding. Civility is in short supply in America these days, let alone "the net." I remember a world where we tended to respect the elderly,
opened doors for people, said things like "please" and "thank you," and in general tried to be good people. Then came talk shows with rude people who
somehow increased their ratings, and the ruder they got, the more money the shows made. That set the model for the modern day talk show. Then came
MTV, which was pretty benign at first, but is now a sesspool of rude (and jack-arss-styled) behavior contained in reality TV. I suppose this has been
going on since the mid/late 80s and now there is a generation of people who were born into such a climate. Of course, they aren't the only rude ones.
Older people are just as rude, too, it seems. I do think there are more polite, courteous folks out there than there are rude ones, but there's
something about sharing intense experiences, beliefs and opinions on ATS that brings out the BEAST in a lot of people.
It's like road rage. People who would never get angry under normal circumstances completely lose their minds when they're in a car. It's as if the
structure of the car removes their inhibitions. Perhaps a website interface, a simple text block, evokes the same, or a similar, effect.
Sitting in a room, face to face, surely things can get heated, but it's not as likely. Even over the phone people find it easier to be rude, but
there is the quality of at least hearing the sound/tone/inflection of the other person's voice. In a text block, however, we can't read that a
person's words were meant to be delivered in a "jokingly sarcastic" tone. The same text might be read as "snide and angry." And, since most of us
are NOT script writers, we're not used to stage directions that help *frame* how a line is delivered. For example, (sighing) "I wish you wouldn't do
that." That same line can have significantly different meanings depending on the descriptive words contained in "( -- )". (shouting) "I wish you
wouldn't do that." (whispering) "I wish you wouldn't do that." (playfully) "I wish you wouldn't do that." (frightened) "I wish you wouldn't do
that." (light-heartedly) "I wish you wouldn't do that."
Maybe we should use some stage direction. Maybe make it a personal policy to be... CHIVALROUS at all times. When in doubt, just ask what would King
Arthur do? OR, more appropriately, how would King Arthur say it? The antidote to rudeness and the lack of civility, IMHO, is becoming a *chivalrous*
person, holding one's self to the standards of an honorable, compassionate knight. Yes, that's a bit melodramatic, but you get the idea.
Yet, even as angry as some people get, it's good that we're not stomping on each other's heads or getting otherwise physically violent. Still, be a
knight, not a rude bully. Personally, I agree with the OP and feel that by holding ourselves to a higher standard, we make ourselves and the world a
better place for everyone. AND, finally, remember one of the golden rules: the energies you send out get tripled and come back to you.
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