posted on Oct, 21 2010 @ 05:42 PM
Your age does not mean that you are like Jesus or are destined to live a celibate life.
My guess is that you don't pick up on women's signals. I know a girl who was the same way. Guys would flirt with her and she just wouldn't get
it. She thought they were just being "nice." I'd point out to her that that's not what they were doing, but she didn't understand. Because
she didn't get it, she didn't date much. Since she didn't date much, she couldn't figure out guys. It's a viscious cycle.
Look, It's not all about attractiveness for a woman, although that does help. We women are looking for stability, honesty, intelligence. We like it
when you're secure with yourself. We like it when you have a job because that shows independence and responsibility.
I think you are giving out the wrong signals.
An experienced woman can usually tell when a guy hasn't had sex. You carry yourself differently. Believe it or not, you walk differently. You're
more innocent. You aren't as sophisticated in wooing us because you act like you're unsure of yourself. You're just awkward. We don't like
desperate. If you act too desperate we quickly get turned off by that, too, because it's just gross.
My hunch is you're trying too hard to be a "friend" and you're also giving off the "desperate" vibe.
Here's my advice: start dating, A LOT. The more women you hang out with, the more you'll start figuring out how to communicate with them. If you
see someone you're interested in, ask her out on a date. You've tried the shy game long enough. Worse comes to worse, she says no. Fine. There
are plenty other women out there to choose from.
In order to cross over from the "friend" to a romantic love interest, you have to make some changes. Touch her more often: Brush her hair off her
face. Hug her for a second longer than usual. Put your arm around her. Hold her hand. Help her with her jacket and then steal a kiss. You have to
make a move, man!
Your soft touch will send currents of electricity from you to her. She'll definitely get the message. It's a completely different vibe you're
giving off. "Friends" don't do those things or when they do touch each other, there are no jolts of electricity happening. It just feels normal.
It's your intention that changes that touch into electricity.
If she just thinks of you as a friend, she'll be surprised and it may take her a bit to make the switch to thinking of you in a romantic way. But,
she also might go with it.
Don't freak her out with the whole "I haven't had sex" thing. She'll worry that you'll bond with her too much. She doesn't want to be your
"first" because that carries with it responsibility. Just wait until it happens. She'll still know it's your first time (trust me, she'll
In other words, right now you're worrying about home plate when you haven't even gotten to first base yet. Take it one step at a time and it'll
work out for you!
Let me know how this has helped. If you have any other questions, just ask. Good luck!