reply to post by Death_Kron
Surely you must know the difference between a woman doing it because it is happening and a woman doing it because she is turned on???
Yes, I know the difference, and I'm not talking about physical responses, I'm talking about actually enjoying it. Sometimes sex sounds like too
much "work" even to me. But, once you start to touch and undress, then things usually turn around and become very enjoyable for both partners.
As far as cheating and adultery, they are not interchangeable. Adultery is simply sleeping with somebody besides your wife. Cheating is doing
something behind your wife's back that you would not want her to find out about. It can't possibly be cheating if you have permission.
Now, I don't want to sound like some maniac. I don't want sex 24/7, and I don't mind having to work a little to get it, and I don't mind being
told no occasionally. The problem arises when you hear more no's than yes's! Generally your wife should be willing. Those days that she is
feeling under the weather or exhausted are acceptable, but it shouldn't be all the time.
I mentioned the holding, listening, forgiving, understanding part, because I feel the marriage is 100% give and take. I am more than willing to do
whatever she asks of me. I do not have the word "no" in my vocabulary when it comes to my wife. I will do the dishes, wash the dog, change the
diapers, buy her the dress, take her out, rub her back, or build a new deck. I will do whatever she desires that is within my physical capability.
The marriage is in no way all about me. When it comes to sex, I have the larger sex drive and it takes an effort on her part to keep up. When it
comes to yard and house work, she has the larger drive and it is up to me to keep up.
Someone asked if I would return the favor. If I were ever unable to satisfy her, would I be willing to let her get her satisfaction elsewhere. The
answer is a resounding YES! Sex is very important. I would much rather be involved in the process and selection and maybe even enjoy it a little
compared to not having a clue what she is doing because I am close-minded and jealous.
Korg also asked if I minded having sex with my wife knowing she wasn't enjoying it. The answer is sometimes. It is much more fun when she is
enjoying it, but occasionally I don't mind if she just wants me to get it over with. It can actually be kind of fun that way also. Kind of fetishy,
but I wouldn't want it that way very often.
Originally posted by autowrench
reply to post by getreadyalready
It is coercion all right, and that is wrong. It is like a threat. To wife: "either you do it with me, or I will do it with someone else. Wrong,
buddy! If I said that to my wife, she would slap my face, and I would deserve it. The truth is, women outnumber men by an every widening margin, and
in my area, women seem to have their pick of men, I see foxy women with mediocre men all the time. Rape is rape, no matter how you slice it, or how
you package it. It is still a crime against nature.
If women outnumber men, and if you often see foxy women with mediocre men, then it seems that us men have our pick? If I am a good provider, a loving
husband, and a caring mate, and I also have an enormous sex drive, my options for women are limitless. I "choose" to be with my wife, and she
"chooses" to be with me. Either one of us could choose someone different if we so desired. "Rape" is not a crime against nature by the way.
"Rape" is the natural order of things. The animal kingdom thrives off of rape. Even in humans our hormonal urge to reproduce is stronger than our
own will for personal safety. People often risk their lives in search of more sex. Rape is the way of nature. Marriage and monogamy is man's
civilized version of reproduction, not natures.