The Homosexuality Fad.

Disclaimer:
Now firstly, I am writing this thread due to another thread i read on homosexuality that got closed (I agree with the closure because it was just downright offensive to homosexuals).
Now im not talking about all homosexuals, if you are attracted to the same sex it is absolutely no problem to me! You cannot help the way you feel and love is love, i have many gay friends and i must say some of there relationships have love that easily rival hetrosexual relationships. Spread the love people
This thread is not an attack on homosexuals, just this fad that seems to have arisen making it a new craze to be gay making themselves try to be gay, you get me?
This is going to be very difficult because it is a very touchy topic, so i will continue stepping around the eggshells so we can divulge in this further
Commence Thread!

Now, in my generation i have noticed (expecially in my school) That it gives you INSTANT attention if you are homosexual, giving a massive rise to 'homosexuals' in my school (all girl school, thats gotta make you laugh ) and making girls claim to be gay when they CLEARLY are not and start macking on with every other girl that has started to claim that they are gay. Whilst most people experiment isnt pretending to be gay while your not to fit in wrong?
These girls may also be pretending to be gay for male attention, do you view this as wrong?
What if a girl (or boy) decides they like being pleasured more by the same sex than the opposite and actually end up staying with the same sex, what about the future child they may have had?
what do you think the current media has to do with this rise of homosexuality?
As a homosexual, do you find it offensive that people are trying to be gay? (if your not, just write what you think anyway)

Opinions of gay people would be greately appreciated!!
I really hope i have not offended anyone with this article.
Happy Discussing

reply to post by littlecloud


Some girsl to it to get guys or attention, and some girls do it because they are actually gay or bisexual.

Either way, ITS AWESOME! (damn you testosterone)

reply to post by OzWeatherman

Some girsl to it to get guys or attention, and some girls do it because they are actually gay or bisexual. Either way, ITS AWESOME!

hahaha! Thats what alot of the males seem to think haha
yeah i agree with you, but im sure some problems would arise out of this.. just got to wait and see

reply to post by littlecloud


I agree with the bit about girls using supposed bisexuality to either sell themselves, a product, or to gain attention. I was at a bar last week and one of the two female bar tenders started grinding on the back end of the other. the other bar tender looked embarrassed and kind of half-heartedly laughed as the politely pushed the first bartender off her.

if i was gay i think i'd be even more offended that people would so brashly and unthinkingly characticture my god-given right to love who i choose to, turning their attempts to get free drinks from men into the same kind of faked, vapid, pornographic stereotype that reactionary conservatives have labeled legitimate homosexuality for years.

it really is offensive. and even though i'm about as red-blooded and american as they come, i don't find it attractive. well no more attractive then the 'i'm too stupid to tie my shoes, wanna have sex?" shctick.

i think this faux bisexuality is developing into an unhealthy attitude toward homosexuality running alongside the more traditional unhealthy attitude of hate.

i see drugged out pop music stars and actors trying to play 'civil rights crusader' for a gay rights movement that i largely support. but i can't help but notice how the maxims of my generation, the gratuitous self love, the intellectual laziness keep seeping in. instead of 'gay's deserve equal rights.' its 'homosexuality is a gift from god.' is this really necessary?

coinciding gay worship to battle gay bashing seems unproductive and stupid to me. it reeks of an attempt to piss people off and draw attention to yourself instead of developing and repeating mantras that could help the movement for equal rights.

anyways, thats my 2 cents.

Really being gay or lesbian is much more than a fad or simply experimenting with homosexual sex-acts.
You imply so yourself - part of what the girls are doing is attempting to fulfill a male fantasy.
Here it's monkey see monkey do - it's a trope in porn and popular culture (Britney and Madonna).
You call it "fad" yourself, so I think most of the girls will soon grow out of it.
I think a lot of it is probably exhibionistic shock value - and trying to push the limits of how the system will deal with it.
It's all same-age experimentation, the HIV risk is low, so have fun playing with your identities and sexuality.
Ultimately if you're not really gay you will soon see how childish it all was.

Although there are some modern motifs here, traditionally (although nobody spoke about it) homosocial, or "same-sex environments" have always had lots of situational homosexual behaviour.
My advice?
Keep it wink, wink and nudge, nudge...
Nobody wants some rumor or scandal following them in later life, and modern technology leaves a permanent trace of everything.

if i was gay i think i'd be even more offended that people would so brashly and unthinkingly characticture my god-given right to love who i choose to, turning their attempts to get free drinks from men into the same kind of faked, vapid, pornographic stereotype that reactionary conservatives have labeled legitimate homosexuality for years.

Yeah I agree, I would seriously be offended too if people were embracing my sexuality for attention, which is quite ironic if it is actually seeking attention from the opposite sex.

Really being gay or lesbian is much more than a fad or simply experimenting with homosexual sex-acts. You imply so yourself - part of what the girls are doing is attempting to fulfill a male fantasy. Here it's monkey see monkey do - it's a trope in porn and popular culture (Britney and Madonna). You call it "fad" yourself, so I think most of the girls will soon grow out of it.

Yeah i definately agree that its much more then that, I thought I made that clear in my original post but i must not have haha.
I hope these girls grow out of it, the world is becoming ridiculously over-sexual.

coinciding gay worship to battle gay bashing seems unproductive and stupid to me. it reeks of an attempt to piss people off and draw attention to yourself instead of developing and repeating mantras that could help the movement for equal rights.

Uh, are you refering to me or the celebrities and people declaring that it is a gift from god?
because I am not trying to piss people off, thats why I wrote my little disclaimer.
Anywho, that is a very valid point about bringing upon gay worship to combat the issue, but maybe they try to make gay worship so it eventually would be allowed in churches.
Eitherway, equal rights is the way to go

reply to post by littlecloud


definately talking about the celebrities. don't worry bud haha.

So, it's like 'who's the most gay' contest now? It's as though they're begging tptb to swoop in and brand you in sexual terms. I know I know it started out as a nice idea, a way for gays to get federal recognition, monies etc..., but like many things, it sort of backfired. We'll have another round of this when California does prop 19. It may turn out quite ugly.

Took a lot of nerve to start such a thread OP. Which homo thread was yanked? I have seen the 'homo issue' thread, many replies, few flags, and pretty much avoided it. Is that the one that was pulled?

Anyway your post makes good sense. It's pretty obvious, since madonna, that there's a whole homo push coming from any singer who's not an absolute butterface, and money can never be discounted as a reason. Then there's the chemicals everywhere. People forget...that the MIND...is the largest sexual organ. When Jackie Treehorn begins to speak of 'electronic stimulation', well, y'all ought give it a listen. Just think tesla...tesla...nah...they wouldn't do that would they...could they...oh my God. It was like a perfect intertwining sine wave...I could SEE it AND feel it!!! All I had to do was look at her FACE and IMAGINE!!!

You say that you personally know gays whose love rivals that of straight folks? Yikes...don't try this if you are an elected official. That's like saying 'some of my friends are jews'.

It's very tricky, lot of ins and a lot of outs.

reply to post by starless and bible black


Firstly thankyou! Someone needs to disscus this issue humanely.
This was the topic LINK
and yes I completely agree! Its our mind that makes our reality so why would it not be the biggest sexual organ?
They are playing with our minds i afraid.
I just feel sorry for the people that are oblivious to it.
Well im lucky im not a politician then! my head would have been chopped off by now.
I know its a pretty big statement, but its true from my point of view

Although there are some modern motifs here, traditionally (although nobody spoke about it) homosocial, or "same-sex environments" have always had lots of situational homosexual behaviour. My advice? Keep it wink, wink and nudge, nudge... Nobody wants some rumor or scandal following them in later life, and modern technology leaves a permanent trace of everything.

Yeah thats quite a good point. They'll grow out of it hopefully.
But what about the younger kids? Im sure there recieving some of this too, and thanks to external influences (media and the like) its going to ulter their sexual preferances/behavior, more promiscuous behavior may follow mainly because there will be more people to be promiscuous with.
Also, im sure there are many gay steriotypes which would be quite disheartening to the gay community.

reply to post by littlecloud


I dont get it.....you saying its a new fad for the girls to be gay or lesbian or homosexual with other girls as a popularity thing.....I got to say since you say your school is all girls it could just be a female thing, since female are more sexual by nature.....Because last I checked pretending to be gay when a male at school would not be a cool thing or a popularity contest among them, even if it was an all boys school. Unless your talking about the girl on girl action that females do to attract certain dudes, then the only other thing's I could think of is they really are homosexual or bisexual.

When I was a kid, my mom told me that people that were gay, usually had some traumatic experience with the opposite sex, and that was the cause.

As I got older and realized that what she said was a pipe dream, I met and am very good friends with many gay people.

But here were my findings concerning the situation. Many had the natural inclination to be with the opposite sex, but those that were the most flamboyant, had some type of incident with the opposite sex which made them veer into that direction, and NOT the physical need to be with someone of the opposite sex.

Now don't get me wrong, men and woman can find the opposite sex attractive, maybe even sexually attractive and not act on those feelings, but we seem to ignore our emotions based on what most think we should feel, as opposed to what we feel in our hearts.

Our connections to one another as people or entities are being suppressed because they may be of the opposite sex. Love and sex are not the same, never have been. Our love for an individual has been altered to feed the machine.

I say love whoever you want, even if it has to be in secret. If your a man and love a man, by all means do so, and the same with women. Sex is a different story, that may even be for an individual, and again a different story, but love whom ever you like. Its our right.

Peace, NRE.

I'm not sure if this fits in with the concept of homosexuality being a "fad", but one thing I have noticed both directly and vicariously is that some males go gay simply because they are fed up of rejection from the opposite sex. They seem to think that either the rejection was a sign that they were gay, or that by going gay the rejection problems will end.

Now, I for one am a "gay friendly", albeit straight, male. I have no problem with gays, and take their occasional advances on me as a compliment. But when I hear about these guys who go gay as some sort of "last ditch effort" to find love and or lust, I really feel for them. It used to be a feeling of disgust and high-brow pity, but it has since turned into a sort of projected sadness.

Women going gay is definitely a fad though, and they definitely do it for attention. Not to say all lesbians are fake, because we all know that isn't true, but there seems to be a lot artificial bisexuality and homosexuality in the younger female generation, and the younger male generation, to a much lesser degree.

reply to post by galadofwarthethird


I understand your point it is quite confusing, but ill just summarise what im trying to get at for you.
There are the people that are homosexual purely because that is just who they are.
But many people are coming out as gay when they are not, and this is due to quite a few things (im sure there are many factors I am not aware of)

Popularity
Attention
The Media
Over-sexulisation

Yes that is true about females since we are more emotional hence experimental, but trust me 90% of them are NOT gay (at my school) they have just seen alot of the older girls who are and are now deciding to follow suit.
The purpose of this article is so we can differenciate between the people who are gay and the people who want to be for any paticular reason, so we can dig deeper and see what the causes are and the potention problems it can create.
hope this answers your question

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


Thats a very good point indeed! Love and sex are completely different but society seems to mark them as the same thing.

When I was a kid, my mom told me that people that were gay, usually had some traumatic experience with the opposite sex, and that was the cause. As I got older and realized that what she said was a pipe dream, I met and am very good friends with many gay people. But here were my findings concerning the situation. Many had the natural inclination to be with the opposite sex, but those that were the most flamboyant, had some type of incident with the opposite sex which made them veer into that direction, and NOT the physical need to be with someone of the opposite sex.

Ah thankyou! That could be another cause (I need to find another word for cause because it makes it sound like a disease) but ofcourse every situation is different.
Also, these girls are young and do look up to other girls and could make them rather confused with the way they feel too

reply to post by littlecloud

You hit the nail on the head, because this is what makes it so difficult to respond.
Most of these girls might be experimenting, but some of them may be truely gay.
So one wants to reply in a way that respects the feelings of both.

reply to post by inivux


I had a female friend say to me 3 days ago over instant messenger, "had a horrible date last saturday. no call. i'm going lesbian for a while."

we talked and it was a joke. but she admitted that she actually saw 'going lesbian' as an action might take upon meeting rejection. this friend is far more liberal than i am, but its then that i started realize just how deeply embedded myths about homosexuality are.

you can't 'go gay.' the idea that you can 'go gay' and 'stop going gay' is exactly the idea that leads to straight camps.

there's nothing, 'super hot' and hypersexualized about two girls or two guys kissing. if that's what you're into that's what you're into.

whats up with this hypersexualized/choice stereotype that bible thumpers have repeated for years suddenly infecting the minds of young people in the 'tolerant left?'

rejecting hate is about rejecting ignorance. rejecting hate is not about celebrating ignorant representations of differences.

i'm currently in one of the most liberal, propagandized classes i've ever faced in my education. but the reading list is tops. every week when i read over everyone elses papers i notice somethign very funny, it appears the liberals dont' actually read the books, they give a summary that could easilly be lifted from amazon and then fly off the handle on a rant about (insert your favorite conservative evil stereotype here). the moderates and conservatives in the class seem to be the only ones putting thought into the works themselves.

its like having the "right attitude" about something has replaced being intellectually honest and excuses you from laziness.

i think you're right, i think its hypersexualization, i think its misplaced multiculturalism, i think its lazy group think run amuck. i worry about my generations ability to solve the complex problems that we all know lay ahead.

god help us.

I'm not sure if this fits in with the concept of homosexuality being a "fad", but one thing I have noticed both directly and vicariously is that some males go gay simply because they are fed up of rejection from the opposite sex. They seem to think that either the rejection was a sign that they were gay, or that by going gay the rejection problems will end.

Yes I agree, thats definately something I can see happen. I have seen many girls who fit into the "steriotype" and swing that way because of it, if that is a close enough example.