posted on Sep, 25 2010 @ 08:36 AM
Without reading any of the other posts before creating my own, I can answer this. He's never had any reason to want to better himself. Most likely
anytime he needs anything, if he begs hard enough he'll get it. If he gets in trouble, someone will bail him out. One of the hardest things about
dealing with your siblings AND children is to know WHEN to stop giving in to them and let them deal with their own mistakes/problems.
I was in a similar situation years ago. I was a drunk bum who couldn't hold a job for anything. It was a struggle to keep bills paid, and I had to
SAVE to have cigarette money. I lived close to my parents & anytime I needed anything I could just ask. I'd borrow the car, money & so forth. My
life changing experience came when I got myself into a mess that they couldn't get me out of, and I wound up behind bars for a year & a half & they
sold the house they were letting me live in. I had to become more self-reliant then, because I had no free place to stay except with them...and 35
years old living w/ mom & dad just isn't good.
Long story short, I am now hundreds of miles away from them and own a computer repair shop that I operate out of my garage. I fix approx 150 PC's
per month @ $40 a pop. Money is no issue. Self-esteem is redlining.
Bottom line is, someone is ENABLING him. Once they stop he will either change, or wind up in jail & THEN change.