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Originally posted by Thurisaz
sorry to hear of this but I am not the best with dentists either. Nowadays they are a lot better, years back it was awful...
Perhaps you could get a prescription for valium etc to take before you go?
Thats what I do and it helps.
all the best!
Originally posted by GypsK
reply to post by Tempest333
At this point I don't know what I'm going to do yet, maybe talk it over with my doctor first, she knows me pretty well and maybe she knows a solution.
I was 12 years old when my parents took me to the dentist for the first time, by then he had to do so much work that I kept going almost every month untill he could give me bracers (which didn't really help because my cheek bone is to small and can't fit all my teeth). Needles to say that after that I never went to a dentist again, Untill age 20 when I had two broken teeth in the back and I had been swallowing so much codeine that my doctor wouldn't prescribe it anymore. So I went in, but he couldn't get me sedated enough to work on the tooth, he put arsenicum on the nerve, closed the tooth and asked me to come back one week later. The next time I went, the nerve was death, he fixed both the broken teeth and sugested a surgery to make my cheekbone larger (that was a no no for me).
About 3-4 years later my wisdom teeth had to come out because they grew almost horizontal. As I said in the post above, I woke up during that surgery, which is a very unpleasant experience, in short, I thought I was dying...
When I woke up in the recovery I felt as if I was threated by a butcher instead of a dentist. The wounds kept bleeding longer then expected, but they sent me home anyway. 3 Days later the pain was so bad that I went to a local dentist, he took a look and said 'no wonder that is hurting, they stiched your gums to your cheek.' He removed the stitches, gave me antibiotics and a few weeks later all was fine again.
The worst thing is that I gave my fear to my daughter. She gets hysterical when she has to go to the dentist and there are several who politely asked me to go elsewhere in the future. So 3 years ago I took her to a specialized childrens dentist, he did all her teeth in one surgery. Now that was 'specialized phobia treatment'... but they only do that with children. (Maybe I'll give this dentist a call and ask to make an expeption)
So you see, it's been a bad experience every time I went to a dentist, that's why next time, they have to put me asleep first. But then I fear what I might find when I wake up again... blood, pain, etc.
Originally posted by GypsK
reply to post by Yissachar1
I don't know how old you are, but I pitty your wife or girlfriend.
Your respons just proved to her that you would not be there for her if she was to face a hard time.
Reading the above, just makes me realize even more what a good husband I have. He's been there for me from the start of this and will stay at my side untill we fixed the problem, no matter how. He never once said I was whining or overreacting.
As for the money, I work equal for that money
I made this thread so that other people could give me advice, or to share samelike experiences, phobia's, hear about how other people dealth with it, etc.
Originally posted by GypsK
Another tread on toothache reminded me to write this on.
Several months ago I did a thread on 'dentist-phobia' right after I bit my front tooth in half. A few days after that thread I did go see a dentist who did a temporary fix on it. The last post I made was "Yey! I'm going to Holland!"
So what's so special in Holland? Well, they have a fear clinic there and they specialize in dental surgery. The reviews I've read where pretty good so I made an appointment and I was as happy as could be that my husband finally gave in and wanted to spend a good deal of money to get all my teeth done all at once in one surgery.
A couple of months ago I indeed went to Holland for a first consult. To my surprise, the clinic was 'hidden' behind an industrial area....
The staff was friendly, they took pictures of all my teeth and back in the waiting room I got coffee and cookies and they reassured me that a psychologist was on stand-by whenever I felt I needed him (phobia, remember?). Then, to my bigger surprise, the actual dentist, who did the first consult, turned out to be one of those TV doctors from a reality show that ran on the dutch television. I had no idea that show was recorded in the very same clinic I was in.(and I never liked the guy on TV).
So after he did a lot of talking, explaining and showing before and after pictures, he asks us if we have a 'good enough' budget. I'm like 'huh? I told you what I want so just tell us what's it going to cost." Then the biggest surprise of all, he comes up with the magical number of 13000 euros. I thought I fainted right there on the spot, my husband turned green and didn't speak a word. He also didn't say a word on the long drive back home. A few hours later, the only thing he said about it was "I can buy a nice car for that money".... and I knew he didn't want to spend that much... not on dental work.
I know that if I had the same procedure done here in Belgium, it would cost me about 4000 euro and an extra 500 if I want to make it a surgery (that's about the amount we wanted to spend and what we expected from looking up prices). Even more, if I can get a dentist to put in writing that it is necessary for me to be asleep for the procedure, most of the medical cost will be covered by my medical insurance. My insurance doesn't cover costs made in another country, unless it's an emergency.
The problem for me is, in my country they don't specialize in dentist phobia, there are no psychologists near your bed when you wake up and have mouth full of blood. There is no one that guides you through the procedure. In my case I'd be back in my car and on the road before someone can stick a needle me!
All that was back in April, in the mean time I realize that I really should do "something" and a few teeth are beginning to hurt sometimes. There is also that temporary fix that needs a permanent solution. I simply can't do it.
My husband tried to make me go see a normal dentist. He said he'll rather give me a 13000 euro car... IF I make an appointment. but I still can't do it.
I don't know anyone who has this big of a phobia then I do...
it is really making me feel miserable and that I hate most of all !!!