Originally posted by hotbakedtater
reply to post by Sherlock Holmes
A man has ABSOLUTELY no control over whether a BABY is created??
Many of these hypothetical scenarios are ideal in nature.
It's pretty easy for me to demonstrate I am "safe" - a rubber is quite obvious, and the fluids look different if I'm shooting blanks because of an
operation. (I'm a guy, if this has somehow escaped the reader).
It is not as easy, however, to determine this about my partner (presumed female, as I'd decline otherwise). Has she been taking her pill? Did she
lapse in a dose or two? Are her tubes -really- tied?
It is my understanding that sex is preferable without a physical barrier - and the prospect of engaging in such a full-contact sport is honestly quite
Now - again, in an ideal scenario, I would know this person well enough to at least be prepared to assume the responsibility of parenthood should it
be required - but, as I said - that's the problem with the hypothetical situations thus-far. We have a good time after a party or casual meeting
(whatever lead to it), and go our separate ways.
I was lead to believe she was using protection in the form of birth control.
Now she's pregnant - with my DNA.
Should I be legally responsible for that child since the entire engagement happened under false pretense? The question isn't moral responsibility,
but legal. My morals would have me including this person in my life a little more - she must have been something else to stand talking to me for more
than an hour and agree to such an encounter, so I may as well. However - should the law be able to come in and say that I have to take responsibility
for that child?
Here are the facts: I was misled. Whether this was with criminal intent or not - I was given false information with no means of verifying that
The pregnancy can be terminated. I know this is a touchy subject - but she has the option of terminating the pregnancy regardless of whether or not I
If I am to be held legally responsible, then what prevents women (and you know the type exist) from extorting this policy? Rather than convincing
people to adopt and split for the child support, one can simply say "I'm safe" and get the child support. So, I can't say I really like that
option. No need to institutionalize succubi.
On the other hand - I shouldn't be able to tramp around and simply use "She said she was safe" to get out of responsibility.
The only real way to solve this is to simply not hear any cases regarding bastard children unless both the parties involved signed and notarized a
legal statement regarding the sexual relationship(s) in question.
Oh my god, classic! Thanks for the laugh, man. Maybe next year in Sophomore year of high school you can take biology, and learn the folly of your
thoughts. Hey, I like fantasy too, but baby making has long entered the scientific field.
In all honesty - he has a point. I don't have much control over what happens after the initial exchange of fluids. She can take a day-after pill,
have the pregnancy terminated at a later date, etc. She can also decide to carry a child to term even though we agreed, prior, that any unanticipated
pregnancy would be terminated.
It's like if I decide to give you the keys to my car, and you go crash it. It still dinks my insurance. Thus - I don't hand out the keys to my car
unless I -really- trust that person. I do the same with regards to sex - but, again, most of the cases that end up in courts do so because they are
not ideal situations.