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Originally posted by Fiberx
The only circumstance under which any man should be able to "decline fatherhood" is if he can prove BEYOND DOUBT that the woman intentionally caused the pregnancy in a deceitful manner. She would have to purposely damage or lie about birth control mechanisms or artificially insert the "magic ingredient" with the intent of "trapping" the man through pregnancy.
Originally posted by Fiberx
Guys, 99.99999% of the time (not a huge number of women artificially creating pregnancies) if you want the honey you have to be prepared to care for the hive.
Originally posted by Fiberx
P.P.S. IMO we would not have so many issues with sex and broken relationships in our society if people in general would have more respect for human intimacy. It seems like it's become a game, a pass time, just something to do for fun.... It's the act of creation for goodness sakes!!!
Originally posted by Fiberx
The only circumstance under which any man should be able to "decline fatherhood" is if he can prove BEYOND DOUBT that the woman intentionally caused the pregnancy in a deceitful manner. She would have to purposely damage or lie about birth control mechanisms or artificially insert the "magic ingredient" with the intent of "trapping" the man through pregnancy.
Originally posted by Fiberx
It would be very hard to prove that and it would suck if you got done like that and couldn't provide the proper evidence, but it is much to important to leave this issue to anything but the highest standards.
Originally posted by Fiberx
Even in this case, the disconnection should only be financial. In any case, the father should be noted and should be strongly urged to have some involvement in the child's life. The only thing a successful case should provide is protection from the woman demanding money for the next 18 years. The man should be urged to offer money as well, just not legally bound to do so. The woman should be ordered to see a shrink as well.
Originally posted by Fiberx
Guys, 99.99999% of the time (not a huge number of women artificially creating pregnancies) if you want the honey you have to be prepared to care for the hive.
Originally posted by Fiberx
We should not be creating laws that give a man a way out of fatherhood without extraordinary proof.
Originally posted by Fiberx
It's the act of creation for goodness sakes!!! Not to mention the single most powerful and immediate emotional charge a human experience.
Originally posted by Fiberx
It takes both of us to create a child. Nothing about procreation is unilateral. That's why I say that if a woman can be proven to have subverted the mans will to avoid creating the child, he should be legally entitled to freedom from that act. This is the only case in which she makes an act requiring the consent of both parties in to a unilateral decision.
Originally posted by Fiberx
However, choosing to engage in sex and having no birth control or having birth control fail is not the fault of the woman exclusively. This is a case where both parties must take responsibility.
Originally posted by Fiberx
Let me add something here.
If you feel that leaving a woman to care for a child while you simply mail her a check as your replacement for physical involvement in the process of raising the child is screwing YOU..
I suggest asking the court to give you custody of the child and asking HER to just send you a check.
Originally posted by Fiberx
reply to post by SevenBeans
It is so much more complicated than that. There are ethics and social pressures and emotions and physical changes that have an immense influence on a womans choice to keep a pregnancy or not.
Originally posted by Fiberx
You have to do your part to cause a pregnancy and that means you are responsible, like it or not. She can't escape it.. even if she ends the pregnancy, she is deeply affected. You have the biological luxury or being able to walk away, but you should be ashamed of yourself if you do.
Originally posted by Fiberx
The only way out should be an intentional usurpation of your right to ATTEMPT to avoid the pregnancy. Every single time you have sex you risk creating another human.
Originally posted by Fiberx
It takes both of us to create a child.
Originally posted by Fiberx
Nothing about procreation is unilateral. That's why I say that if a woman can be proven to have subverted the mans will to avoid creating the child, he should be legally entitled to freedom from that act. This is the only case in which she makes an act requiring the consent of both parties in to a unilateral decision.
Originally posted by Fiberx
In relative terms, this is the womans version of raping a man.
Originally posted by Fiberx
However, choosing to engage in sex and having no birth control or having birth control fail is not the fault of the woman exclusively. This is a case where both parties must take responsibility.
Originally posted by Fiberx
The woman can never avoid dealing with her own pregnancy, which is why women should have the exclusive right to make the final decision on keeping the pregnancy or not.
Originally posted by andy1033
If a male does not want to bring someone into this world an dwants to make sure of that right, he should keep his zip up.
How can you have it any other way.
If your afraid of bringing kids into the world as a male, do not have sex, or get sterialised.
The woman can never avoid dealing with her own pregnancy