posted on Oct, 29 2010 @ 10:46 AM
Maybe we dont hear about dead beat moms because like me, most of us noncustodial female parents do not mind paying, gladly pay because we love our
children more than we hate our ex. We are not demons, and it gives me an inside look at this system from normally the man's pov.
What I pay is beans compared to what a 15 yr old needs to survive, but that is fine with me. I had both the kids for five yrs after the divorce, and
all the time I heard through friends that he was claiming poverty due to the paltry sum he sent us, yet he managed several vacations and to lure
another victim into his web, so my ex most definitely played up the child support woe is me.
I just pay mine and send care packages monthly or so. Something their dad never did.
I think a lot of the men griping about paying child support hate their ex wives mor than they love their kids, or they would shut the ehll up and be
thank ful they do not bear the entire cost.
Child support is not intended to provide FULL support, the custodial parent assumes that financial burden, and they reap the most reward of actually
getting to see the child grow and live. That is something I miss out on due to distance, and although I am sad and miss my boy, a boy needs his
father, and no matter how loathesome I find the man, I made a child with him and boys need their fathers, period.
Just a different perspective, female who pays child support.