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Originally posted by rusethorcain
reply to post by Edrick
Why do you double space your sentences and take up so many pages of the thread with just a few posts?
We are supposed to minimize external-text material in an effort to save space, and they are both content.
You are taking up a great deal of extra room with nothing.
reply to post by StarrGazer25
No I believe you took it the wrong way or maybe I didnt put it out the way I wanted too, but I did say SINGLE parent.. meaning a caregiver to a child... a child that is alive and sustains life on its own... the other half SHOULD NEVER have the right to financially walk away and I also stated in an earlier post, that women have the EXTRA responsibility of carring the fetus, parasite which ever u want to call it, so we do have the EXTRA option of ending such a parasitic situation
Originally posted by Raist
reply to post by Badgered1
I agree with you on ever stance accept not wanting to hear the sides of pro-lifers if they have not adopted.
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However, to just brush off anyone pro-lifer because they do not adopt is still biased.
I am pro-life due to a personal experience. I have seen what my first born looked like. He was still born at 22 weeks. He was nothing less than a little baby boy. Aside from that I have a second born son, that is all that my wife and I can afford financially therefore we have not brought another child into the equation.
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
Ok what is your point my own grandmother raised some kids to, so did my grandfather. I ain't making fun of you its impressive really truly, but people have been doing it for centuries.
And it sucks that your husband didn't like your kids.
Children need fathers, I know from experience. And "male abortion" will not stop these men's babies being born if the mothers can't handle aborting and can't handle giving away the baby they've carried 9 months.
Thats not what the feminists say...you are not a very good feminist.....
There is no male abortion issue...there is a female abortion issue...and a male and female relations issue.
- Unless you do it chinese style, drag the crying mother to the abortionist and forcibly remove the foetus from her womb.
I don't understand this fascination with babies that women have.....And no I don't want to drag anyone around, or force anyone to get any abortion, or anything against there will.
And please, do some adding up. I don't know how to explain to you that it's not possible for more women to be having sex with men than there are men having sex with women.
Many things are possible, this would be on the bottom of the list of things possible... I know how to explain it to you, so you would understand, but its a waste of time, and does not matter....All in all you said it yourself, your a grandmother, you were raised in a different time and world....Things change every day.
We need to do more standing up for each other instead of to each other.
Tell that to the people in this thread arguing to legalise what they term "male abortion." That's what this whole thread is about.
Originally posted by mayertuck
reply to post by Kailassa
First off I am sorry about the circumstances that you went through. I am glad that things. Furthermore I am glad that you are able to see beyond your gender. Kudos to for for all those reasons and being civil.
Now it mighr put women in a horrible situation and it might not, If they were being made to be responsible for their actions and knew they would "going to possibly go it alone" they might use their choices better, I can not say for sure either way. One of the reasons we have laws in place, as an preventive measure. Sure you are going to have people still break those laws, but the majority will follow unless pushed to extremes.
Originally posted by joechip
reply to post by Kailassa
We need to do more standing up for each other instead of to each other.
I couldn't agree more. I appreciate the viewpoint you express here. I actually believe this discussion need not necessarily be discussed in terms of men v. women. However, when women express a disregard for a man's freedom and equality, it tends to devolve into that rather quickly. I believe that is largely what we've witnessed here on this thread. Not entirely, but enough to be the overwhelming sentiment. Really, the attempt to demonize and intimidate on this particular thread was largely led by women. I do not place your participation in that category. But put yourself in a man's shoes reading these posts. Hard to avoid polarization when you're being verbally abused.
Tell that to the people in this thread arguing to legalise what they term "male abortion." That's what this whole thread is about.
I disagree that that is what this thread is about. Male reproductive rights is what this thread is about. Roe. v. Wade for Men, as the article in the OP termed it, isn't a great term IMO, but it is somewhat apt, as Roe v. Wade guaranteed reproductive rights for females (and I believe the Constitutional principles on which it is based apply equally to men). I actually think a new term needs to be coined to better sum up what this movement is striving for. But who is using the absurd term "male abortion," anyway? I haven't used it. It's not in the article cited in the OP. I feel your statement is either based on confusion of what is meant by the term Roe v. Wade for men, or a misunderstanding of the position. It's incorrect in either case. And it's the last thing I would want to identify my own position with.
Originally posted by mayertuck
Why something needs to be done so that the one with the least amount of control over the situation does not have to shoulder all the blame. of not holding up their end of responsibility.
As with you and your sons I feel the same way. Furthermore I feel its going to get worse for my boys with all of the other issues that are facing men and boys, that no one wants to really listen too.
Anyways thanks again for being civil. It is the only way to solve this.
I'm pro children knowing, and being at least partially supported by, their fathers.
Originally posted by Kailassa
You're lecturing a grandmother who has raised three children on her own, with no help from any man, (and two of the kids are handicapped, which is why husband left,) and who has raised her own children to be responsible.
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Children need fathers, I know from experience.
Sometimes children of single parents do better than children of married parents. For example, a study of hundreds of 10- to 14-year olds and their parents showed that in their day-to-day lives, single parents were friendlier to their children than were married parents. The children of single parents also spent more time with people in their extended families than did the children of married parents.
But if two-parent households have twice of everything that adults have to offer children, then why don't the children in those households do far better than the children in single-parent households? And why would they ever do the same or even worse?
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The first is to let go of the fantasy that all children living in nuclear families have two totally engaged parents who lavish their love and attention on all their children, and on each other, in a home free of anger, conflict, and recriminations. The second is to grab onto a different sort of possibility - that many children living with single mothers have other important adults in their lives, too. I don't mean just kids who have Grandma living with them. I also mean all of the kids who have grandparents, aunts, uncles, neighbors, teachers, family friends, and others who care about them and make sure they know it."
If by "pro" you mean to imply that you believe it just to enforce this by law, then you are inconsistent unless you believe the same about their mothers. The child's rights to "know and be at least partially supported" by their mothers is not even a concept being considered. Nor should it be, in my view, as it represents unconstitutional governmental overreach as well. But let's be consistent.
Originally posted by joechip
reply to post by Kailassa
I'm pro children knowing, and being at least partially supported by, their fathers.
Originally posted by Kailassa
Benevolent Heretic was when she was arguing for it.
Melanie McCulley, a South Carolina attorney coined the term male abortion in 1998, suggesting that a father should be allowed to disclaim his obligations to an unborn child early in the pregnancy.
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McCulley states:
'When a female determines she is pregnant, she has the freedom to decide if she has the maturity level to undertake the responsibilities of motherhood, if she is financially able to support a child, if she is at a place in her career to take the time to have a child, or if she has other concerns precluding her from carrying the child to term. After weighing her options, the female may choose abortion. Once she aborts the fetus, the female's interests in and obligations to the child are terminated. In stark contrast, the unwed father has no options.'