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Originally posted by orange-light
And last but not least your own demons, which live in your head and try to devaluate you every day.
The hurt sometimes goes on and on.
The ex has hurted you to make himself look better, but you believed him and still believe him so easily.
You really believe you are not worthwhile being loved for so many reasons:
Being to fat
Being to skinny
Being to blonde
Being not blonde enough
Being to young
Being to old
Originally posted by Yissachar1
From a guys perspective, quite a lot of women have not let go of the hurt from their previous relationship, have probably never been on their own and are under the mistaken impression that it is up to a guy to make them happy... They bring all the poison from the past to the presant, punishing her new guy for what her past guy did, so she ends up single again feeling even more hurt and frustrated!
True love finds both of you when you least expect it.
Originally posted by orange-light
reply to post by Trudge
trudge that.s a good way getting in touch with another person and to find out where he/she comes from.
i for myself don.t drink much either, or we can say .- i drink about nothing.
some close relatives have issues with alcohol so i don.t want to be involved
i am not so much in chess for example. never really understood it.
but i would love to learn it to figure out if i might like it.
i just didn.t want to play it every night.
we have to give and we have to take.
i think i can only attract somebody really if i am clearly myself.
but i can.t be clearly myself if i am doing things that are not mine.
a couple of weeks ago i was at a birthday party.
2 guys were celebrating and one came originally from poland - seemed having been raised with vodka
he owned a 3 l bottle of that stuff and run around forcing people to drink by pouring the vodka into huge glasses.
i was able to make him accept that i don.t want to drink vodka.
he was a bit annoyed but accepted it.
a friend didn.t wanted to drink either but allowed him to force her - she thought it might be an offense to the guy.
how can it be an offense if we stay integer?
those who go out every weekend clubbing and drinking might not have learnt how to spend their time differently.
sad to admit this.
do they really want to get drunk or is it just a way to socialize?
that.s also a very interesting question.
Originally posted by Trudge
I thought so to, get to know someone before you go out, why waste both of our time if we are to different.
My grandfather on my dads side had a big problem with drinking
True, but if you find someone similar to you then both of you shouldn't have to give up much
exactly, thats why finding someone with similar interests is key to being happy so you can both be yourselves
First thing that goes is your judgment when drinking and misery loves company which is why he might have been trying to get everyone to drink with him and also why I don't drink much at all anymore.
Well for me when I was younger it was to socialize but it always led to me drinking to much and making decisions that I normally wouldn't make.
I wish you the best in finding someone that you can be happy with. I have been looking for a long time and have yet to find "the one" I want to be with for the rest of my life.