posted on Sep, 12 2010 @ 12:14 PM
Some people think that you only find love once in your life.
This will be the guy, the girl you are going to marry and when you die you are still with the same partner.
But sometimes life leads us another path.
We find somebody we love. We are going to marry this special one and than one day we’ll find ourselves in a courtroom getting divorce.
And the whole game starts all over again.
But this time it is different.
First of all you are older than the first time.
Than you have friends – as a girl especially female friends who are either still married or divorced like yourself.
The married ones start not to invite you anymore when it comes to bigger parties than just having a coffee with the friend or a small breakfast.
You might take their husbands away.
Surely you like their husbands, they have always been good pales but you never thought and still don’t think of them as love partners.
But you stared to become a potential danger.
Those female friends who are also divorced make it even worse.
We have two groups in this case or maybe three, I am not sure yet.
1st group is the one who steps out of the courtroom having a new love at hand.
In this case, even if not married, they switch over to the groups of the married friends who regard you as a potential danger.
2nd group the one who are not yet ready for a new relationship. The group of those who are still suffering. “I am not yet over Pete. I just can’t
Yeah my friend you knew for 3 years that your Pete was a kickass and will remain it and won’t come back.
And there is group number 3.
Those who want a new relationship but strongly believe that the game is over for them.
Wonderful, beautiful women in the midst of her life …
Intelligent women, who believe they hardly have a chance anymore.
“All we can expect are those who never got a woman, the bald, the ones with the huge bellies ……”
And last but not least your own demons, which live in your head and try to devaluate you every day.
The hurt sometimes goes on and on.
The ex has hurted you to make himself look better, but you believed him and still believe him so easily.
You really believe you are not worthwhile being loved for so many reasons:
Being to fat
Being to skinny
Being to blonde
Being not blonde enough
Being to young
Being to old
The list is endless and women tend to believe in the worst.
And the dating game has changed during the years.
Most of us, who started playing again the game of finding a new love, are in our 30s, 40s or maybe 50s.
Some of us live all alone, some have very young children to care for, and some have older children, for whom they also have to care.
Exhausting jobs demand most of our time or if we don’t have a job we are looking for one.
But we are all united in the desire to find somebody.
Somebody who will love us the way we are – this time for real and ever.
Or just somebody who holds us tight when nights get cold.
Or a simple one-night-stand to push our self-consciousness.
Time is much more limited than about 20 years ago, internet dating sucks somehow – even if the woman only wants just a man for her bed, it is nicer
to exchange more than a simple “hi” or “hello” before going to bed ;D.
So the question is:
How to find love again if life is not that perfect anymore?