Originally posted by KrillsAngelWings
Originally posted by YayMayorBee
reply to post by KrillsAngelWings
Not saying its right or wrong either way but women in the work force has lowered the respect women give men.
Women are now raised thinking "they dont need a man"
We shouldnt be raised thinking we need a man to have a life we love either
I don't think that is what is being implied at all. Again if you are looking at this whole issue from the perspective as husband = oppressor family =
burden then ya this whole article will fall on def ears.
What i find rather interesting is that it appears everyone loves and values their "family" the most in almost all situations but yet they seem very
apprehensive and paranoid about actually creating a family of their own with children of their own in a relationship of their own, its almost like
mommy and daddy, bro's and sisters are all they will ever need in thier life, which I think personally is selling yourself short of a great life
experience but hey, to each their own. Just make sure that if you chose not to participate in your own creation of a family its not because of these
inbeded perceptions that husband = oppressor and family = burden, because if you do, you're being fooled as those are not at all what those represent
and I can tell you from personal experience.
My wife and I are both fiercely independant and its rather ironic because the whole reason we first started dating is because we both KNEW we didn't
want marriage or kids....we were convienient for eachother to date because there were no expectations which works amazingly well for independent
Not 6 months later we were engaged, 4 months later married, and a year and a half later, one month away from our first child and not one time was I
afraid of being burdened by a family, or oppressed by my spouce. Still to this day we are as independant as we were before we met and we realise that
is the foundation our relationship lies on.
This article is just calling to light that there is an obvious missrepresentation of the "family dynamic" to instill a sense of apprehensive,
paranoid, fear based reaction to "relationships" and "family" and trust me it is intentional, ALL THINGS on TV are intended it is THE most
calculated business on earth.
One more thing:
My wife makes more money than I do and many people ask me if that bother me or makes me feel like less of a man. It doesn't bother me one bit and
here is why, I/we do not put either of eachothers value in the amount of money we bring in, only in the amount of effort being put into the family. We
as a couple decided that competeing with eachother over how much we make is absolutely asinine and childish so we don't even think on that
wavelength, and because of that we aren't fighting or competing with eachother over "stuff" that ultimately hurts the family more than benefits
My personal belief is that women were designed to be care-givers and men were designed to be providers. It just seems so incredibly obvious and
consistant from the moment of conception. So obviously the tradition women stay home with children and men go out and hunt/provide whatever is very
consistant with eachother's roles during pregnancy.
Thinking that the intent behind women staying home with children is to disempower and burden them is exactly what was intened to break the family
structure up and disempower the family. Women by NATURE have to CARE for the children much much more then men do, its a fact so get used to that.
Women lactate for a reason and its not to ruin your t-shirt. There is a reason you carry that child inside of you for the better part of a year. There
is a reason there is a reason there is a reason, and its the natural way of things. No amount of feminism, womens rights movements, bras burned, laws,
regulations, or protests will ever ever ever change those facts of life.
I have seen a difference between the generations on how they VIEW the whole issue, just find an older lady pre-womens rights and talk to her about it,
you will see. Older women embraced their pregnancy and viewed it as a blessing/privledge to be the ones who were chosen by nature to carry the child
and give birth to the child, THAT was empowering to them. They love their families and love their husbands and the respect was mutual because each
knew their natural parts.
NOW, women view pregnancy as a burden, a curse, a problem, "oh why do I have to be the pregnant one?", oh "why can't you be the one carrying this
baby", on and on....its a complete 180 flip in perspective.
Just go talk to younger pregnant women of this new generation or more specificly the ones who's intellectual age peaked around the time of the womens
rights movements, you will SEE a difference in how they view their roles in the family.