posted on Aug, 31 2010 @ 08:58 AM
Originally posted by kevinunknown
This is going to sound very insensitive, but really what happening to ATS that some guy can log on and say “I have no friends” and get 35 flags,
its like the “look at my pretty picture threads” and the “I am the start child threads”, not what I joined ATS for. At the very least this
should be in BTS.
But no now it’s full of a bunch of equally lonely people attempting to do the Good Samaritan thing by giving this guy advice. Each one trying to
outdo the other over how much good advice he or she can give whilst being so nice their avatar should be on the cover of every thank you card on
earth. It’s like some of you have just been bursting with anticipation to make use of some of those memorised Chinese fortune Cookies you’ve been
eating alone for the past year looking for inspiration. This thread has became full of do gooders competing with each other in a who is the nicest of
the nice competition, its selfish and not doing this guy any favours.
OP, this will sound harsh but somebody needs to say it, pull you together and get a life. If you have a job, just start actually talking to your work
colleagues and ask about going out for a pint. You are bound to have at least one person you sort of know so ask him or her out for a drink or even
try talking to them.
PS, why did I not get the memo about ATS starting up a lonely hearts forum.
That's quite a poor call there kevinunknown.
I don't know what you're seeing but I can see a bunch of people contributing to a thread either because they felt a predominant connection with the
words the OP so eloquently posted, or they genuinely wanted to let this person know a thing or two about living a happier life from their own point of
view. Perhaps both of those simultaneously. I know that's at least how I behaved.
Look at it how you want though.
Words can be elusive, funny things, kevin. You could put things one way to a particular person and they will not take a single thing away from what
you have told them. On the other hand, if you try and reach out to a person by attempting to establish a meaningful connection instead of plainly
laying all the cards on the table and straight up telling them what they should or shouldn't do, you might have a better shot of communicating with
People see the world in vastly different ways.
I mean, I love being straightforward, nevertheless it's not always the most effective method of getting a message across.
Sometimes people just need to hear things explained a little differently for something to finally .. click.
So we're all basically pitching in, trying to offer the OP some of our own perspective, just trying to help.
I wouldn't get so anal over people doing things differently. Undoubtedly there will always be a more pronounced ego to some peoples words than
others, but it's great if you can outdistance the trivialness of such negativity and see
the positivity (that you seem to hate so much) that
people are trying to share.
Just a thought.