posted on Aug, 9 2011 @ 11:44 PM
Oh Dear Lonely Poster,
You epitomize the age in which you live. Our families, and communities are broken. So many of us have become transient by virtue of following our
educational opportunities or our work. Those who stay in one place learn to become leary of reaching out to newcomers, they have too often felt the
heartbreak when they move away. So, to the newcomer they seem cold and uncaring.
People also are afraid. Afraid of rejection. Afraid of ridicule. Afraid of how their thoughts will be construed. So they tend to stay in their
same small herd in which they have learned to be comfortable.
And, the internet offers us the opportunity to reach out and share interests with others. It allows us to learn and laugh and share with people that
we will never meet. That part of it is wonderful. And it is so much easier to schedule than a dinner for eight on a night when nobody has to work,
and everyone who has kids can get a sitter....
But. if it weren't for the interent, we would probably place more importance on real life interaction.
We would probably be more likely to smile at a new person.
To take the chance.
So don't feel like it is you.
It is all of us.
Every person who has ever denied you friendship. Either outright, or through laziness, has denied it to themselves too.
I hope you find what you are looking for.
But just look at all of the stars, flags, and more importantly, responses, that you got for your post.
Your are certainly not alone.
You, like so many of us, are just adjusting to this strange new way of the world.
It has perks.
But it has downsides too.
Balance is probably key.
I am glad that you are here at ATS. And I hope that all of these responses make you feel less lonely.
And how funny is it I wonder, would you have had the courage to say this to any of us face to face?
And would any of us have had the courage to answer?