posted on Sep, 3 2010 @ 07:15 PM
Loser? Well, I couldn't tell you.
I mean, if you try REALLY HARD to make friends, but fail everytime, I guess that means you "lose" at making friends. Which, consequently, makes you
a "loser" of sorts.
Otherwise, no, you're just an extreme introvert.
I too am a daydreamer. I often feel disconnected from others, due to the fact that I feel I perceive things others do not, and don't feel the impulse
to get caught up in trivial daily matters (topics that often fuel most social interactions). I sometimes feel like I'm an alien, observing humans,
but am not entirely one of them.
At the same same time, I "win" at making friends. I can make friends whenever and wherever I want. I often become the center of attention
(unintentionally), and people seem to naturally gravitate to me. Why? Because I learned how to play the "people" game. It's simple, actually, and
it mostly revolves around YOU NOT GIVING AN EFF WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU. But really, it's hard not to give a care when you aren't secure in
If you happen to be completely socially inept, I would suggest using your "observational" skills to analyze how other people interact with each
other socially. Or, you could realize that you are one of 6 billion people, that life is passing you by, that you live once (in this reality anyway),
that nothing really matters or is of any great significance in the grand scheme of things, and that because of all this, you can express yourself
socially in whatever way feels right to you, regardless of what other ppl might think.
If anything, I've learned most people are very impressionable, have a weak sense of reality, and often look to others to help them assess and
understand their environment. Therefore, if you stay true to your own judgments and perceptions of reality (regardless of what anyone else is thinking
or feeling), you will have more social "power" in that people will gravitate to you because they are intrigued by your viewpoint and character. So
really, sometimes it's easier for friends to find you, rather than you looking for friends and giving off "desperate" vibes.