posted on Aug, 18 2010 @ 11:48 PM
What is considered 'abuse' these days was commonplace in earlier times
It's not all that long ago (couple of generations) that children were considered 'property'
If you visit forums populated by older generations, you'll learn the extent of what is now termed 'child abuse' as practised upon children by
parents and society in times past.
But it wasn't considered 'child abuse' then. It was normal. It was condoned. It was even advised. It was believed 'necessary' and
For example, why not research 'baby farms' ? For those who can't be bothered, 'baby farms' were where some women placed their children and
babes. Women of no qualification advertised their services. They offered to raise other people's children and babies, for a sum.
Women who'd been deserted by their partners, or who'd given birth to an illegitimate child or who needed to work -- would place their children and
babies in baby-farms. Sometimes they ran and never saw those children/babies again. Sometimes they died. Sometimes they married and couldn 't
afford to tell their husband they'd had one or more children. Sometimes they didn't want the burden of the child - they may already have had six at
Those children/babies were crowded into very small houses quite often. Twenty or more small children in a small room. All those mouths to feed. All
those non-disposable diapers to be changed several times each day and night. All those children crying, many of them ill or made ill by neglect and
overcrowding. Easily disposed of. Many of those poor childrens' bones are still under the ground today, un-mourned, not missed, their deaths
unrecorded and brought about by murder, their burial a shallow grave in the back-yard of the baby-farmers and now below more modern buildings
In 'normal, ordinary' homes, children as recently as a generation ago, were beaten with straps, canes, broom handles, electric cords. Sometimes
their only offence had been to enter a room when their parent was in a bad mood or drunk or stressed or angry with Time for making them older
Professional therapists were for movie stars and the wealthy. For many parents, their therapy was beating their child into a coma -- because they
could. Because other parents did the same. So did teachers. It was so common as not to be remarked upon
When I went to school, an alcoholic male teacher with a grudge against my father, used to grab me by the pony-tail and smash my face into the
blackboard. His 'reason' made no sense, but he was never questioned so basically the 'reason' was simply that I was my father's daughter and
easier to beat up than my father was.
Boys at my school were subjected to beatings with a selection of canes which were displayed in a special rack near the teacher's desk. The canes
ranged in size from whip-thin to broom-handle circumference. Part of the sadistic ritual was for the teacher to call one or more boys to the front of
class and force them to stand there, awaiting a beating, while the teacher pretended to be deciding which size cane would cause the most pain. If a
boy flinched on the downstroke, the teacher would bring the cane up aginst the very tips of the fingers or against the fingernails, which was
excruciating. In addition to classroom beatings, each morning before the massed pupil population, the headmaster administered similar beatings to
half a dozen or more boys described as 'incorrigibles'
Flip forward to my children's generation, which was supposedly 'enlightened' by this point. Really -- so why was Mr. Stavros grabbing little boys
by the ears and using those ears as 'handles' via which to drag those children from the school-gate and across the school-grounds to the office ?
The headmaster never did a thing. I spoke out. My children paid the price. This was in the early 80's and onwards. My son was beaten each week by
the music teacher, until another teacher told me that only my son and another boy continued to attend the class. That whistle-blowing teacher was
systematically victimised for her courage and finally kicked to the kerb. I was threatened by the Teachers' Union, who claimed it would take me to
court for ... who knows ? Perhaps because I had words with the headmaster and his sadistic music-teacher and his limp-wristed sports-master
partner. They didn't take me to court, although I invited them to go hard at it. Maybe the fact I had already contacted the media by that point
decided them to 'let me off with a warning' ?
Mothers and fathers at the end of their rope usually had a favourite whipping-child .. the one described as the 'bad one'. When the child could
take the beatings and abuse no longer, he/she left home. No-one accused those parents of 'abuse', even in the 80's and 90's or even today
Children died from beatings and other abuse doled out by their parents. Others limped around, covered in bruises, bent over from cracked ribs, faces
split and scarred. They still do
Fathers raped their daughters, impregnanted them, drove them into unwed motherhood, shame, suicide. They still do
Mothers jealous of their daughters continue to destroy their self confidence and send them out into the world like walking-wounded
Neighbours and teachers continue to turn a blind-eye because they 'don't want to get involved'
Realtives continue to ignore evidence of abuse that's right under their noses. They tell themselves that even though the child is being abused,
it's better off with its parents than to be placed in foster-homes which may likely continue the abuse
Some -- certainly not all or even half --women who were sexually and/or physically, emotionally, verbally abused themselves may themselves abuse.
Same with fathers
Some parents may kill their offspring. Every now and then we hear about a child which has been kept in captivity -- in sheds, in attics, for decades.
Why one child and not another within the same family ? It's long been a matter for research. I don't think any firm conclusions have been arrived
Is there any difference now between how children were treated in the past -- even the recent past -- and today ?
Yes. People are reporting more now and so is the media
Will reporting child-abuse help to stop it ? Yes. Because it means the parent will suffer. When people realise they will suffer for their
actions, they suddenly learn to stop it
Will we ever see an end to child-abuse ? No, unfortunately. But compared to even a generation ago, we might see a steep decline now that parents
understand they will be punished, exposed, jailed
Does the parents' wealth, education, own childhood, social status, etc. make a difference in who will abuse their own and other's children ?
No. Child abuse occurs in the most and least-wealthy homes and every type between. Same with the parent's education, social status, etc.
Is child-abuse at the same levels as in the past ? Sadly, it most probably is, although often the type of abuse has changed in many instances --
parent's abusing their children's minds, emotions, self-confidence etc. rather than the more visible physical abuse
Are parents murdering their children more these days than in the past ? I don't believe so. Once again, what society and the media once kept behind
closed-doors is more likely to be reported now, that's all