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Originally posted by conspiracy nut
sorry about your experience in the states, but for the most part i would say the majority of us are nice, and even though not everyone will exchange pleasentries, i try to keep my attitude up and say hi to people who make eye contact with me on the street.
Originally posted by greeneyedleo
Id have to agree.....to an extent.
I went to Russian in 1993 just after the fall of communism. I flew in to Moscow and drove days down to Tolyatti stayed awhile and drove back. Spent a month total in Russia. Im sure Russia back then is VERY VERY VERY different than it is now.
Originally posted by SteveR
Can you provide some background to what is going on at 2:33 in the second video on this thread. Why are you getting her to kiss on camera? Seems rather exploitative to me.
You probably don't remember me at all but I had a really long series of e-mail conversations with you a few years back. I don't think I used the same e-mail address though or I used an anonymous nickname at the time. I don't remember the exact year but it was probably around 2002 or 2003 when your website was a chronicle about all the problems you were encountering in Russia . I believe my initial responses to you were kind of critical in regards to your adventures in Russia and your motivations. Well, like you I am an Asian-American and I made the decision to live abroad in 2005. I haven't regretted it one bit and it has been a life changing (and saving) experience. It’s interesting and sort of funny to me that it seems you decided to live abroad roughly around the same time as I did. I always considered this option and deep down inside it’s what I was planning for in my life. I was far from being a “loser” in the U.S. , I was hired by a police dept and was going to work in law enforcement as a career. I fit the “type A” personality attributes pretty well because I’m fit, decent looking if not handsome, confident, outspoken, and I have managed my personal life well. However, I spent a couple weeks in the academy and realized that I could never become a cop. It wasn’t because I lacked the ability or the interest in police work it’s just that the motivation wasn’t there to “protect and serve” communities in the U.S. I had absolutely no interest in building a life in America and the people I was surrounded with just put all that into perspective.
After I quit the academy I felt fairly depressed because it was the first time I quit something major in my life. I felt like a failure for a couple years because I didn’t buckle down and go through with it despite my reservations. I even tried a couple more times to enter into law enforcement. This was done more to convince myself to fit into American society professionally rather than doing what I really wanted to do in my heart. It was only after I decided to put everything on hold for awhile and do some soul searching that I figured out what was really bothering me. It wasn’t me at all it WAS the society I was living in. I am just not materialistic or infatuated with conforming to the American ideal of what an American male should be or what constitutes the fabled “American ethic.” The whole idea repulses me and I feel a deep seeded disgust and aversion towards what many Americans stand for. It’s too bad I didn’t figure this out for myself until much later.. all told I wasted a good 4-5 years from 2001 until 2005 with indecisions about my life. Those should have been the prime years of my life spent partying, socializing, laying down a career path, and just enjoying my youth but I am still young (29) and have been happily living abroad the past couple years.
Let's face it America is good for some things like making money, developing stable businesses, and enjoying the natural landscape however the standard of living is highly overrated and downright poor in many respects. People in America are stressed, sexless, annoyed, and angry most of the time. You can see it in mainstream American culture, the macho bull# posturing, the elitism, and the feminist nonsense. I know some people will deny this and call us "pathetic" for our choices but I know too many American expats from all walks of life who are happily living abroad to discount this as mere coincidence. The english speaking western world has really pigeonholed itself as a moralistic, productive, and order based society but I feel the more you order and categorize people's lives the less happy they are. I’m not even going to get into all the racial discrimination, social politics, and other nonsense that pervades every aspect of American life either. Let’s just say that I’m sure you know about as much as I do how bad it can be as an asian minority in the U.S. Actually, it’s not even a race thing these days. I find a lot of my friends from ALL racial backgrounds to express how sick and tired they are of the bull# they face in daily American life. However, the vast majority of these guys will never leave. They just don’t have the options on the table because they set down responsibilities and roots that will not allow them that mobility. I feel for them, if only they knew..
Once you go abroad it’s difficult to go back. My first extended experience living overseas opened my eyes in a variety of ways. People will always be people but I believe that culture is the single biggest influence on people. There is definitely something wrong with America in this respect. America may be a lot of good things..productive, prosperous, and relatively free but the socialization of its citizens is much less advanced than other (much more economically poorer) countries I’ve been in. The way I look at it quality of life isn’t just all about money. It’s about what you can do with yourself in that society and how comfortable you feel around others. In America I was never truly “comfortable” but always felt tense or slightly agitated at the people around me. There’s definitely a hostility and tenseness to social interaction there that I don’t feel anywhere else. That’s a lot of negativity to deal with daily so it’s not surprising that out of all industrialized first world countries Americans generally have the least healthy lifestyles and shortest overall life spans.
Anyways, this e-mail ended up being a lot longer and more personal than I anticipated. Feel free to quote from this if you would like to. There are a lot of other observations I’d like to make including various countries I’ve traveled to in the past couple years but I’ll save that for another e-mail.
Also, keep up the good work. I really feel you are one of the more intelligent and insightful individuals out there on the internet. I’m sure there are lots of American men of all backgrounds who agree with your articles. Ignore the naysayers and bitter Americans out there who want to bring you down to their level. Be yourself and be happy with life. Life is short and sometimes that’s all we can do is just be.
Let me add to your list of things that I feel of what ails Americans, and why so many of them are in this sad, depressed state they are in.
I feel that America is a society (mainly through television) that has pumped up peoples' expectations way above and beyond what is humanly possible or realistic. What I mean is, we are told that capitalism is a great system, that our government, although incompetent, still loves us. We are continually being told that we have just as much opportunity as Bill Gates or Warren Buffet to retire in total financial comfort. We are also told that Americans are friendly and social, and that if you can't find socialization in your own life, then it's your own fault, and you just need to get out more (whatever the hell that means).
The list could go on and on infinitum. However, what I realize now is this: if people are sold bull# bills of goods, and things don't turn out like they're supposed to, then people go into a sort of neurosis where they either shut down, get anxiety, or a combination of the two. It's for this reason that there are all sorts of drugs out there (expensive, legal ones by prescription of course) that are designed to totally numb us and make us continue going along with this matrix. I have, however, noticed that marijuana and other natural psychedelic drugs do quite the opposite. It's for this reason that the governments of the world -- particularly America -- are strong about keeping these other harmless drugs illegal.
Most prescription drugs keep those people fed on high expectations from ever rebelling and hitting the streets. These drugs anesthesize their pain enough to make them still want to work, however, and continue life through this rigged matrix. However, if you ask a person who is on, say, Prozac what they feel about corporate America, the dating scene, the social scene, etc., they'll just say the same parroted crap that "life is what you make it and you need to go the extra mile to earn a living in this world." They'll also convince you that America is the best place in the world to live, and that people in most other countries are unhappy and would just die at the chance to come to this so-called free country. Some freedom huh, when you can't' even get an average-looking girl in your life?
Anyway, I now understand why it's so so important that I go overseas and get out of this rigged matrix. I am going to do everything in my power to make it happen this summer, or by early fall.
Talk to you soon Winston, and keep up the great work on your site.
"there are times when I question myself and ask "how do I know that it's not me that's crazy or has obsurd ideas?"
I think that being inquisitive is productive, for the most part. But the problem with people like us -- having swallowed the red pill -- is that life is forever never easy for us. We live in a world of make believe and acting, and the whole way to get through this life is to conform to it as if all is good and nothing is wrong. We just shouldn't question it, we are told.
I commend you so much for having the gut to have a web site like the one you have. It's a breath of fresh air knowing that there are in fact like-minded people that think a lot like you. But again, I still, at times, question myself, which is why I need to get to the Phillipines so that I can get out of this social rut I'm in. Boy it stinks!
Anyway, I have to go now but I'll talk to you soon. Bye for now.
Originally posted by 2weird2live2rare2die
i understand what you are saying, and i agree everything on tv is lies. however, not all americans are unfriendly, retarded, uneducated, ignorant of geography, and so on and so on. how can you stereotype the most ethnically diverse country in the world? we have people from all over the planet living here, so if you insult americans as a whole you are basically insulting every group of people in the world, they're all here too. people talk a lot of #### about america but we are one of the most tolerant, innovative, and generous countries in the world (the world that we help feed despite our own financial problems).
[edit on 25-8-2010 by 2weird2live2rare2die]
Originally posted by PsykoOps
There is cultural differences for sure and what stereotypes are betrayed in media should never be trusted. Of course there is always exceptions to these stereotypes. Very interesting point this thread makes.