posted on Aug, 14 2010 @ 05:49 PM
I'm interested in people's opinions on this trend, which I seem to be noticing more often lately.
It may be different for people who live in a rural community or a smaller town, but certainly in the city I live in, I've noticed that it's ''not
the done thing'' to talk to, or to acknowledge, a stranger without reason.
What I've noticed also is that on the odd occasion that a stranger does say ''hello'' to me, they are invariably from the older generation, which
leads me to believe that acknowledging people in this way was more commonplace in the not so distant past.
I experimented recently by greeting people that I passed in the street with a friendly ''hello'' or ''good morning !''.
The responses I got ranged from totally ignoring me, awkward smiles and suspicion, to fear and outright hostility !
It's true that there were a lot of people that reciprocated my greeting with a smile and a ''good morning !'', but the other most common
responses that I got were the ''do I know you ?'' look, and a general air of ''what's he up to ?''.
So, why are people so suspicious of, or uncomfortable with, a stranger saying ''hello'' ?
Maybe you haven't noticed this at all.
I live in Britain, so this attitude may vary from country to country, and maybe it doesn't come across as a social taboo in the country that you live
My personal opinion is that many people are just fearful and cynical towards any person that they aren't acquainted with ( with the help of media
scare tactics ), so they assume that somebody talking to them in a friendly manner has an ulterior motive for doing so.
I also believe that a lot of modern technology isolates us and gives us an unreal sense of a ''world of our own'' or comfort zone - cellphones,
i-pods etc. - where you can blot out just about everything - even in the busiest city.
So when someone breaks into that comfort zone, we automatically go on the defensive and subconsciously view that person as an aggressor.
There may well be some other reasons for this, so I would be interested to get some input from other people on this subject.
I personally think it's a shame that any harmless act of politeness or friendliness is frowned upon as a taboo.