My family had a very difficult past few years as well! My husband had broken his back on the job (he was a concrete worker/foreman) and eventually had
to have surgery just to be able to walk. Worker's comp did pay all medical expenses and paid him a % of his former wage, so it helped. He ended up
collecting a lump-sum settlement and with that we invested in a business (turned out to be a pyramid scheme, opps) and we moved our family from PA to
I worked during this whole time, mostly in home health care, and supplemented his income quite comfortably. While in AZ (since my hubby has permanant
physical restrictions) he worked for a car maker, testing their vehicles and loved the job, but the pay was poop!! I got my certification to be an ABA
therapist and worked with Autistic children! Well, the proving grounds where he worked laid off a bunch of people (newbies 1st, of course) and the
company I worked for folded to to state funding restrictions and subsequently $'s pulled completely by McCain due to the recession!
We did what ever we could, cleaning post construction new-builds, freelance article writing online and my hubby even worked at the local Shell gas
station. Our savings disappeared real fast, but we managed to stay afloat by cutting back expenses in some drastic ways. Then we got the news that the
home we were renting (and in less than two months were going to begin the lease to own process) was in foreclosure due to the owners not paying the
mortgage, even though rent was the first thing we paid every month
We ended up selling everything we possibly could, shipping one medium size box of personal belongings for each of us (hubby, me and our 3 boys) back
to PA and then boarding a plane with a suitcase each and one carry-on each! Once back in PA, we lived with my in-laws for 9 months and eventually
found a one bedroom apartment that we could afford with the minimum wage jobs we had found (there were no jobs to be found, even with our
The good news is this; after living in that tiny apartment, all 5 of us, we were able to appreciate each other more, as well as become "ok" with not
having tons of things and stuff! Our lease was up and instead of renewing, we took our time looking for a new home and found it through the power of
positivity and the love of the Universe. It was not easy at all, and we thought our marriage would fail several times, but we made it through. Now we
live in the country in a small, but perfect for us, three bdrm, 1 bath home. We have a one car garage (which is now "Man Land" for hubby lol), a
fantastic deck out back with a corn field behind that.
Basically, my point in writing all this is to say that through this I have learned that going through these types of things can only make you
stronger! Sometimes it's necessary to be purged of all the junk in our lives on all levels, mental, spiritual and yes, even physical! It is sad, but
only because it is happening on such a grand scale and too so many people all at the same time. 2008 was not the best year of my life, 2009 was by far
the most personally challenging and so far, 2010 only seems to be leveling out, I am hoping for the best, but I'm not delusional and so planning for
I wish you luck, love and light Mellissa and all who are going through similar struggles. Maybe we'll be the toughest when the "End Times" shtf?!