Originally posted by 6minutes212
reply to post by boondock-saint
Boondock, I think I can actually answer this one for you. I am a gay female, well bi, but I am in a 4 year relationship with a woman. I've never been
with a woman than for the sexual thrills of a man (the ever fantasized 3 or more somes), before I started my relationship with my girlfriend. Just as
a side note, i'm not lumping all guys into this atypical fantasy, but we all know how it is. This is the healthiest relationship I've ever been in.
We can talk openly, neither of is abusive towards the other, we've had a stable home since we've been together, and all and all our lives are great.
You know what the exceptions are? The hatred and the glares we get from outright strangers if we openly show our affection for each other in certain
public areas. Mind you, we are respectful and aren't sexual deviants (in public lol) but if I hold my girlfriends hand, and a mother happens to walk
down the city streets beside us, 6 out of 10 times we are going to get a hateful comment or "that glare". But we still endure, do you know many
straight couples that could endure being exiled from their family's, half their friends and complete strangers, treated like a lower life form and
still hold steadfast to their love for each other? I don't know many that have had to even try, but I see many "straight" (I hate making
distinctions) relationships fail for less, even my own. Now that I've shown you how strong our bond and love is for each other I want to let you know
what is missing....our ability to make decisions concerning each other in medical emergencies (her nearest "kin" is 3000 miles away and don't
really care anyway), the ability to insure each other when one of us may not be able to carry ourselves, the rights to be recognized as a true
citizen. We are treated like second class citizens, by most of society and our government. To FINALLY get to your answer (sorry, I felt the background
to be relevant) , everything would be just fine, civilization would continue, procreation would continue. Just because I've chosen to be with a women
(yes, I CHOSE, I don't distinguish myself as gay, therefor i made a choice), doesn't mean I've lost my desire to procreate. We intend to have a
child, we want a child, and we are not going to do it by scientific means, we're doing it the old fashioned way, with a close male friend of ours.
I'm sure we're not the only couple to do it this way, in fact, I know of 2 others myself....do you have any idea how expensive the other means can
be with no guarantee? But we're waiting, we're waiting for equal rights. We want our child to be raised with the same benefits and rights that a
child would receive being born to straight parents. If this never happens, we probably will not have a child. The thought of this rips my heart
straight from my chest even as I type, but this is our stance. If everyone were to turn gay, and governments still wouldn't budge on their rules
we'd still have procreation because regardless of sexual orientation, the desire to procreate is just as alive as it is within the straight
community.
You can't be gay and bi at the same time.
Anyone openly showing affection in public is rude because others don't want to see that and especially parents with kids.
Having a baby with another women by a man is being fake.
Babies thrive better with a mom and dad and that is a fact.
