posted on Jul, 2 2010 @ 05:24 PM
I'm sorry fellow ATS, but I had to get this rant out to relieve my thoughts. This is something that has been causing me a lot of stress, and stress
to those I know and love.
These thoughts are mine or mine alone, if you agree or disagree, feel free to respectfully comment and discuss.
I believe that the #1 Flaw In Human Nature is not INSECURITY but how humans manage insecurity.
Through example, through peers, parents and society, we learn how to miss-manage with insecurity; and this leads to the problem I'm now ranting
The Need to Control Others
This isn't about the-powers-that-be. It's about you, me, your family, friends, co-workers... Every time someone has an insecurity, rooting from
personal believes, religion ethics, life turmoils, selfishness, the majority of us turn to controlling others; to get our way and band-aid out
Remember, there is no absolute, beliefs and ethics are fiction. There is no right-wrong, they are actions relating to views attached to conscious or
subconscious contracts which you have with someone else or a belief system you subscribe to.
Your need to control people is harmful.
It's good parenting to look over your children, teach them and keep them out of trouble. It's good parenting to advise and teach your
teens while teaching them to think for themselves; But it is Damn Right Selfish to be in their business once they become adults, unless
they ask for you.
It all comes down to the parents insecurity in this case.
There are also other instances where 3rd party 'friends' try to dictate other peoples lives, including major life decisions and even personal
finances down to the point that it's either the money, or their friendship. It's called the emotional vampire.
It stresses me out, it invades my life, and the life of loved ones and other families. It causes stress on everyone. On a larger scale, you have
CEO's of mass multimillion dollar companies trying to control commerce and trade out of insecurity.
Please, learn to let go, realize that you will be happier once you stop controlling other people. Others will be much more open to your help once you
shed off that possessive aura about you.
And please help others do the same.
[edit on 2-7-2010 by Scarcer]