*Hugs to you*
I too have struggled with this sad question. Please allow me to share my current conclusions?
God's word emphasizes that He forms all life in the womb, so life is His intention.
In Christianity, it is spelled out that God has a plan that will stand the test of time, with clear principles and information on how to do everything
required of one socially, emotionally, and spirituality. The rule is that those who don't have a problem doing good and being honest and fair already
love His ways, and Him by not rejecting practical wisdom.
So He is in favor of intelligence. He based this entire planet and the people on it on a relationship He hoped to have. Like we don't kill our
children, even if they kill, He loves us. Of course, He could end all evil, and I have asked Him myself. He said in Revelation and many other places
that He certainly will, but not without bringing those of us who are not evil with Him, and giving them eternal life. He would rather rescue and
perfect us than kill us, and seeing that He says eternal life is real, this life is not our only chance to have and know goodness, freedom from all
tragedies, His perfect kingdom the way He envisioned it.
But the story is clear that "wrong" of every kind entered the world through deception, in the serpent. He disrespected Adam, fast-talked his woman
right in front of him, and got the fruit in their hands before these two innocents had any idea what hit them. The enemy only had two people to work
with, total innocents, so he got the main thing done: to put a time bomb in each and every one of us, to prove to God that we were worthless, flawed
creatures, not fit to be served by angels, but rather fit to SERVE and grovel before them.
Not all angels went along with this, according to the source. One third did. These are possibly the ones who mated with the beautiful women, created
giants, unleashed knowledge they had from the perspective of watching God create everything after them, and settled down for family life. They were
the primary targets of the flood, indeed anyone carrying their genes, except possibly the three daughters-in-law of Noah, which would also account for
the reappearance of the giants in Philistia and other places in the world, in many, many cultural myths. They also bred larger animals to satisfy
their much greater nutritional needs, and so ravaged the land, the creatures were eaten, and mankind was hunted for food. Enter the flood. when the
offspring and people who mocked God and His good ways of kindness to ea
Meantime, mankind suffered under the punishments of God. Death was in the fruit, but He added conditions to the mortal life as well. Having mercy on
the misery of our suffering and guilt, He also later codified specific ways to avoid and be protected from the generally compromised state of earth
once this death had been unleashed. That is what the rules are for. A warning to those on the fence between good and evil, working or stealing,
etc., and guidelines that are actually promises, contracts that God is offering.
Among them is that to guard the lives of our children, we can respect the Lord, give a day per week to honor His blessings in our children and lives,
help the poor without resentment, and generally treat people as God's own children. This is rewarded by God's side, and He swears that He will
guard our children. I know if one doesn't believe in eternal life, this is cold comfort, but within the confines of the OP, and continuing in the
line of Christianity, eternity is a place of absolute forever. We all will die, we all are our parents' and God's children. So our grief is also
His, except that He is there, in the eternal world, where He says all those who depart this world are also. He said God is not willing to lose even
one, so for eternity, He will give them a life this world could never offer, but one uncorrupted.
The Earth and we mean so much to Him that He allows us to pray or not pray. To seek Him or go our own way, with no prejudice, because our true selves
will show, no matter where He places us, with what parents, with what nation. And He has forever to be with us who love goodness, or mercy, or any of
the things that comes from Him. So knowing that He made earth because its beauty and magnificence are just as wonderful to Him as to us, and that He
could destroy us, but will not from love, and from the point of view of being there as soon as we are gone from here. He also promised to reward
anyone who suffered because of Him, anyone who lost anything from people to lands to their own lives, would receive 100fold what was lost.
Furthermore, those who have died innocent deaths (martyrs), would be raised to eternal life first, and would rule over all the other residents of
Heaven, a right none of us would ever dispute.
I would happily honor those precious children, pure of any future problems, sorrows, or pains, fears, or scars, living every good thing in Heaven, and
ruling our wonderful world there, or on earth, during the 1000-year reign of Christ on the earth. Who would be better, more perfect administrators
and judges than these children, given their lives back 100 times over, and made into all they could have been and indeed much, much more. That plan
is why I love God. He asked us not to eat that poisonous fruit, we were tricked, and instead of killing us right then and there, He still allowed us
to live, and revealed a plan to save us from ourselves in the future (Christ's deal with God, His suffering and death, for our freedom/recovery).
Whoever wants it, whoever loves goodness, mercy, and trusts in good to balance itself out, is following His path and will be in His will. Anyone who
is innocent in this world will be made greater in the one to come. This is so beautiful.
What greater honor than for these children to have positions of authority in this wonderful time? They deserve it, having suffered at the hands of
evil, which I do not pretend to understand. All I do know is that He promises that His enemy and the enemy of all mankind will be blamed and held
accountable for each and every single act of evil ever committed, (Book of Enoch). That means whatever caused those horrible accidents, failures,
whatever. God is the source of the babies, and that means all of us. The enemy and the angelic offspring of the fallen angels are the source of
pain, loss, and tragedy. Death is inevitable but not the end.