Originally posted by Dark Ghost
Or does it just make your blood boil to acknowledge that without external influences, men tended to achieve more than women did? Does it anger you
that men did not need women to form a Men's Liberation Movement so that gender balance in the workforce could be achieved? Feminism has been very
successful at destroying the traditional family and encouraging parents to allow the state to raise their kids for them.
[edit on 9/6/2010 by Dark Ghost]
Does it make your blood boil at all to realize how many things COULD have been done by women if men had not oppressed them for millennia? It sure does
While I am at it…
Originally posted by Dark Ghost
In fact, you just need to be an average person that cares about men's rights and the mental health of youth to realise that Feminism has been
detrimental to these areas.
[edit on 9/6/2010 by Dark Ghost]
Feminism, while it probably has gone too far should NEVER have been needed. The problem is men over history have squashed a lot of original female
thought. How many things did women invent or could have invented or done had someone not turned them off?
I see some tremendous problems in the men at large.
NOTE: This is not to say all men or all women. This is merely the observations of one guy…me
1. Balance – Why do we have to fit into a category? Why can’t men be strong one moment and cry the next? You do not have to find your ways and
stick to them. That isn’t pride, it’s stupid. For the most part I am a pretty graceful guy. I ride horses in tight pants and hunt coats and yes
have been called gay MANY times. I like to work on my appearance and yes even like –gasp!- fashion. I like romantic movies, chick flicks, sharing
feelings and all that but it would be stupid of me to think that is the only way for me to ever be. Sometimes chivalry is called for. Sometimes
strength and raw power is called for.
2. Lack of confidence – So a guy called you gay. So a guy hit on your wife. Did it injure you in anyway? If it did then I think you have a huge lack
of confidence. Raven can handle herself. She is a big girl and makes her own decisions. I have seen several guys buy or try to buy her drinks. I’ve
had guys hit on her right in front of me. Sober guys no less! The important parts were her safety and the fact that she still came home with me, loved
me no less, and no issues were caused. Now with that said I refer back to balance. If a guy doesn’t take the hint and physically grabbed her you can
bet I would go into action to save her if she needed it.
My point is why do guys or for that matter anyone lose their minds over harmless situations and labels? People called me gay. It doesn’t make it
true. Not to mention if you wanted to stick to the completely shallow side of the argument then consider this. What is going to damn you more when
accused of being homosexual; fighting back and getting angry or just walking away?
3. Conformity (This one is for both genders IMO) – Quit reacting to status and social pressures. Don’t be macho, don’t be metro, just be you.
For the gals…don’t be a ball buster, don’t be a girly-girl who hates dirt, just be you. I would be willing to bet my next paycheck that if you
just act as you, somebody out there is looking for your exact type. Why we put on masks is beyond me. Yes I do understand we all have shadows or
demons that aren’t meant for the general public to know and thus I see no harm in keeping some of that to yourself. On the other hand putting up a
front is ridiculous because someday that front will come crashing down and all you are left with is a short amount of time to explain your lies.
4. Lack of the ATTEMPT to understand (Also for both genders IMO) – This one bugs the ever-living-poop out of me. For the love of cake guys you HAVE
a feminine side. Ladies you HAVE a masculine side. Why not try to learn about those sides. Why can’t I show a feminine side and still be
heterosexual? The thing…I can and I do all the time. Learning a skill doesn’t change the cardinal pieces of you unless you let them and if you DO
let them change then frankly I think you had a rocky foundation to start with.
Look folks I am 30. That is not that old especially when you consider the first 10-15 years I am not studying the world around me very hard. So at
best I have had 15 years to learn society and what is happening but I know some things.
I realize the position this puts me in. On one hand I could be seen as trying to incite adoration from women by lying and saying I am pro-woman. I
could also be seen as metro or homosexual for my beliefs so let me speak to that.
I am done pretending and walking on eggshells. I am a guy. I speak what I feel. If you think I am putting up a front right now you are wrong. If you
think I am saying I am better than other guys you are wrong. If you think I am gay or a feminist then so be it; label me as you will. I just
don’t’ care anymore what anyone thinks of me.
I am so far from perfect I can’t even find it anymore. The point is at least I am trying to reach a common ground. I have struggles with myself all
the time. I screw up constantly but for the love of all that is holy I am begging the male and female populace to stop labeling each other, live as
you and only you, be true to yourselves and make an attempt to understand each other. I cannot fathom how different things would be if we started
living this way.
Guys, quit blaming the feminists for making us ‘pansies.’ For that matter quit thinking metros are ‘pansies.’ They are human and individual
just like you are. Again if women ‘made’ your brothers ‘pansies’ it is because your brothers LET themselves become so. Besides who cares if
they are. It makes them no less or more than you are.
Maybe one of these days we can stop blaming each other and start shifting blame where it belongs…ourselves. I stayed single as a youngin for one
reason only; I was STUPID. I thought girls were objects and nothing more. Oh sure I blamed it on society and being ugly but come on, look around me. I
know damn well plenty of people who society deems ‘ugly’ find true love and happiness. No, I don’t play the victim. If I had faults that drove
girls away at that age it was because of my misogynistic glasses, not my haircut or some extra pounds. What a pathetic boy I was and thank goodness my
father woke me up.
Quit being victims…anyone…guy, girl…who cares. If you are playing victim you have some things to work out. A victim is a person who finds
themselves murdered, kidnapped or raped. THAT is a victim.
And quit telling women what they crave. That goes for women too. Just because you may crave the tough guy doesn't mean the girl next to you won't go
for the emo.
[edit on 9-6-2010 by KyoZero]