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Originally posted by speculativeoptimist
It sounds so simple doesn't it, just change the way you think about things! It is easy for me because I'm a "glass half full" kinda guy, but for whatever reasons, so many have a knee jerk reaction to everything they encounter, as just more crap in the world. I am not judging these folks, just observing that without a conscious effort, we all become stained with life's more negative attributes.
Originally posted by doped00
Attitude. We have all seen the pictures on the wall in school saying, "Attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference". How much of us actually understand what that means?
About 3 months ago, I became aware that my general attitude was more negative than positive. I realized I was focusing more on negative things rather than positive things. "Math sucks, this English paper is stupid, this Botany assignment is worthless, work sucks, I hate getting up early....". Once I became aware of this, over the past 3 months I have changed it now to a generally more positive attitude.
My life has been a whole lot better. For example, I just recently completed a 3 week accelerated English course. I could have went in there with a sucky attitude, dreading the worst, making myself miserable before it even started, as I am not particularly fond of writing. But, I went in there with a positive attitude, knowing I probably wasn't going to like it, but I didn't have to like it, I was going to make the best out of it. And what happened? I actually didn't mind the class and actually enjoyed it. I enjoyed writing about whatever I wanted to, that fit the particular assignment.
Now, this girl that sat next to me repeatedly said, "This sucks, this paper is stupid, this is pointless...." etc. etc. And for her, I'm sure, the class was a huge drag, she probably dreaded waking up to go to it, and all around had a bad experience simply because of her attitude. I mean, c'mon, it wasn't THAT bad. We got to sit in a comfortable chair, in an air conditioned room, listen to music if we wanted, take breaks whenever we needed...With a negative attitude, that could easily be: I hate writing, I hate typing, why does this paper have to be so long, 4 hours for a class is too long...
The whole "creating your reality" thing, in my opinion, is simply a change in attitude, which is a change in your perspective on how you see things. This doesn't mean you have to like everything you do and it doesn't mean you just focus on the positive and ignore the negative, but what it does mean is those bad things you have to do, don't drag you down, they don't piss you off, they don't bring a flood of negative emotions.
Whenever you have to do something you don't want to do or something bad happens, you do not have to let it effect you in a bad way. As I was driving down the Interstate the other day, trying to make the 4 hour trip for a 30 minute eye doctor appointment, half way my tire blows. I could have gotten all flustered, pissed off, cursing, mad, angry, because I knew now I wasn't going to make it on time and today was the only day for the next month my schedule allowed me to make the trip. I knew I just wasted over a half a tank a gas for nothing plus the money to purchase a new tire (money is real tight right now) and half a day wasted.
On paper this looks like a bad experience, but it only would have been if I had let it. Instead it went something like this: (1) My tire blows - (my response): Ah, whatever, the tire was bad anyways, I didn't get hurt, good thing I have a spare in the trunk, a "Vehicle Help" van came and gave me a better jack, awesome! (2) 1.5 hour wait while they put on a new tire - (my response): No biggy, I brought a book, I'll just chillax for a while. (3) $230 later for gas and a couple new tires - (my response considering I only had $600 to my name): Yeah that's about a third of my bank account, but I still got enough for food and it's just money, I'll make it back, now I've got two new tires that I needed anyways and I got to read my book for an hour and a half.
I have been reading about Buddhism lately and it teaches about controlling your thoughts. A thought only holds as much power over you as you let it and a potentially bad experience only effects you in a bad way if you let it, just like money only holds as much value as you give it.
Learn to develop control of your thoughts, your attitude, and you gain control over your emotions. You will find yourself in a good mood more and more. No longer will you be prone to the roller coasters of emotions and mood swings.
Change your thoughts, change your attitude, change your life. You do not need to let bad thing effect you in a bad way. When you find yourself with a crummy attitude, change it right away, and soon that positive attitude becomes a habit.
Edit: I wanted to share my experience and in no way do I profess I am a master of my thoughts and attitude yet. But I have come a very long ways and I keep striving to improve.