posted on Jun, 6 2010 @ 08:12 PM
I just don't see how any good could have come from the "mother" contacting police. Now, the children will have to enter the system because the
child protective services won't just release them to a woman that they don't know. The children obviously seemed happy, so the mother should have
just tried to reach her children through private matters.
Generally, when a father kidnaps his children, it is either because the mother is dangerous or she is preventing him from having a relationship with
the children in question. Most often, it is both unfortunately. Also, women will use the children as a weapon to "get back" at the father for
whatever it is that makes the mother angry. This kind of behavior is often extremely harmful to children.
You see, it is almost impossible for a male to make any kind of headway in family court. There are many reasons for this, one being the traditional
role that mothers play in the upbringing of children. However, this is really no longer the case for the majority of families since the whole feminist
movement in the 70s and due to both of the parents needing to hold a job to stay above water.
The second reason being the differing state laws. Many laws are actually written to favor women in both custody battles and child support issues.
There is a plain bias on behalf of women in family court and not just pertaining to children, but also divorce and other legal family matters.
The third reason being the high proportion of women with a "chip on their shoulder" gravitating to those jobs. Often times, women who are abused,
neglected or have extremist feminist views tend to take a job where they can help other children who may be in the same spot that they once were in.
For the women with extremist feminist views, it is a job where they can easily dominate men, unlike any other profession in America. (One would
normally think police professions would be their job of choice but it isn't due to their superiors being male.)
The fourth reason being that arbiter, such as a jury, judge or government organization is more than likely to take the word of a female, over that of
a male. Women are often more credible than men. This is why women tend to get far lesser sentences for the same crimes committed by males. It is also
the reason that women are more likely to be exonerated or acquitted of a charge, than men. There is just something about women that makes people see
them as less threatening.
The fifth reason being that there are many non-profit and government organization that have the sole purpose of helping women in court cases, while
men have absolutely nothing. This kind of ventures into the third reason as well.
The sixth reason and the most damning, is that a judge doesn't want to wind up on the front page of the news for allowing a father in their
children's lives, only to either abuse them, injure them in some way or even kill them, regardless of intent. Judges go through many, many cases
every day and so they tend to rubber stamp these cases, never getting personally involved. For this reason, they most always side with the mother.
If a judge gives custody to a mother and the mother winds up killing or abusing that child, nobody will ever fault the judge or court for giving a
mother custody, however that's not really the case with fathers. So, in the interest of the judge's career and the court's reputation, they will
almost always side with a mother in a disputed case, regardless of whether the mother is a horrible person or not. They could care less about what's
best for the child.
The family court system could care less about the best interests of the children. They are only looking out for the best interest of themselves, the
court and the government. If a child's life gets screwed up in the process, they could care less as it's no sweat off of their back. I have always
said that the two most dangerous scenarios for a child, is family court and convicted child rapists. The two are equally dangerous.
Women often use these reasons for their own advantage, using the children as a tool to either get back at their former lover for whatever they feel
they were "wronged" or to extort money out of the poor sap. They often over-look the dangers that the children are exposed to in these circumstances
or just plain don't care either.
If a woman doesn't want the father to see the child, he won't and their is nothing that he can do about it, save for kidnapping the child/ren.
Unfortunately, their is financial incentive for these women to keep the father of their children away, since he will often have to pay more in child
support. This is an extremely dangerous incentive.
Surprisingly, there are many mentally disturbed young women who feel the need to be a mother, even though they may not be either mentally stable
enough, financially stable enough, emotionally stable enough or all of the above. These women will often try to get pregnant from which ever catch
they may find at that moment, including covert methods, behind the young mate's back. They will then extort this poor sap out of ever penny that he
owns, while keeping him from seeing his child and there is literally nothing he could about it, even if he spends hundreds of thousands of dollars on
legal fees. This usually only hurts the children the most because not only do they miss out on having a parent, but the other parent (most often the
mother) is emotionally unstable. They then get dragged through the court system which doesn't have anything close to their best interests at
Also, this emotionally unstable mother will "coach" the child or tell this child very bad things about the other parent or father, making the child
believe unfathomable things about their other parent, the father. This is also very dangerous to the well-being of the child.
This kind of thing happens more than most people realize and it would not be unfathomable to venture that over half of the cases in the family court
systems through-out the country are in this predicament. Bottom line is that a child is a gold mine for many young women and when this is added to the
fact that many women who are mentally unstable yearn for a child, it spells disaster.
Because of this, I would never turn in a father that I suspected of kidnapping his children, nor would I condemn those who do it. More often than not,
it is in the best interest of the child for something such as this to happen. If I had to bet, I would bet that the mother in this case, falls into
more than one of these categories. Why else would a father feel the need to kidnap their children and live a life on the lamb? Sure, he could be the
exception but more likely than not, he was only looking out for the children's best interest and I applaud him for that. Sometimes, this is the only
option for both the father and the child/ren.