posted on Jun, 10 2004 @ 10:55 PM
Hi Hunter, I'm going to be blunt, just so you know this and understand that what I'm about to say, don't take it personal ok.
Your x-girlfriend "played" you for everything she could get before moving on to greener/wilder pastures. You were TOO nice and good to her and she
took everything that you so lovingly gave from the heart and pocket and the whole time, she was watching for a "bad-boy" that enjoys the wild-side
of life. She used you, dude , until she found a" bad-boy to hookup with. The funny thing about wanting to walk on the wild side is, a lot of these
"bad-boy" types are only out there looking for one of three things from a woman that shows interest in a "bad-boy". 1. A woman that has money and
will spend it on the guy or give it to him when he ask, 2. A woman that will "give-it-up" on the first night, and he will use until he grows tired
of her, 3. A woman that behaves in the manner that a "bad-boy" does , and ( some guys find that a woman that can "handles" herself, and carries
herself in a certain way, very sexy ) , he will normally stick with her for sometime.
So here you have it; 1. the nice guy/girl type and 2. the bad-boy/girl type, then there's the 3. curious-george/georgie "type" of person that
would like to see what it's like to walk on the wild-side.
You, my friend fit into the "nice guy" group. You treat a woman with the upmost respect, shower her with flowers and gifts, take her out whenever
she mentions she'd like to go out here or there or do this or that and you acommendate her every whim, BUT see, SHE was looking for EXCITEMENT.
Now you, Hunter, need to sit down with a notepad ( be totally honest in the answers you write down ), and make two (2) colliums, like this
What I brought to the relationship, , What She brought to the relationsh.,
Then list everything YOU DID in the relationship , to make it happy and loving .
Then list everything SHE DID in the relationship, to make it happy and loving.
After you list everything for both you and her, next you need to start the list again for both of you and list EVERYTHING , you and she DIDN'T DO
in the relationship. Be TOTALLY HONEST IN YOUR ANSWERS !
I'm pretty sure your not going to like what you see, when your done ! When you see how selfish and " ME ME ME", one-sided it was , you will be able
to get over her a lot easier.
But remember, my friend, everything you learned about this girl thats not good, don't forget anything ,because SHE may try to return and pickup
where she left off , with you , AFTER she is dumped by a "bad-boy", when he's done using her ! Do you want her to do it again to you , that is
the question you need to ask your self !
I do want you to understand that NOT all women behave as your x-girlfriend does and has. There a really good women out there looking for a really good
AS for Krazyjethro's remark,........ Not all women are users, and it will be hard for a man to find the right( good ) woman, if he's a
GOD made both sex s to be different, and mysterious in the way they act, talk, etc. If God wanted all humans ,... to act the same, think the same,
do the same things, there would be NO NEED for two sex s and God would of just made men ( no women) and the men would of all be " GAY ", therefore,
GOD made man then made man a help-mate which is women.
If a man was able to understand everything about a woman, and a woman about a man, life may become quite boring, instead of being able to bring
"spice" to the relationship to keep it interesting.
[Edited on 10-6-2004 by nanna_of_6]