Originally posted by specialasianX
2. Be a friggin gentleman. Open a door. Pull out a chair. Get her a napkin. Light her cigarette. You don't have to do all of that but i thonk you
might be able to manage at least one. Anyone of those potentialy breaks the ice and gives you an in to start a conversation.
Be wary with this though many girls nowadays dont like the male doing the 'typical' gentleman thing (depends on the age group of course). If you are
younger (teens to 30's) try one of these gentlemenly approaches but do it in a way that could be either serious or mocking of the practice that way
you have your bases covered... if they're the old fasioned type they'll love you, if the hate old fashioned ways, they'll love how you mock
Dont talk to ALL the chicks you see in a place coz that will make you look like your desperate and casting a net. Find a group of them and start
chatting. Watch their body language and listen to the tones of their voices. If they're not interested dont push it, just leave. If you cant pick
negative body language you have problems. Some people can get away with simply saying when they first start chatting
all that being said. there is no solid no fail technique. the thing it boils down to is the situation, and your interests at the time.
if you want to go further, the enviornment the woman grew up in, the enviorntment you grew up in, the enviornment both of you are in now and what both
of you want at the moment. if she grew up in a place where there were no gentleman. everyone was a prick. she would be really open to someone
treating her like a lady. how many women in this global dating pool always list, "knows how to treat a lady" as one of her qualifications as her
future guy, not all of them but enough to raise your chances..
interests change like the wind and unfortunately there is no manual that works for everyone.
with out taking anything away from specialasianx. let me clarify my comments, due to the fact that you tend to lose a lot of meaning if the points
aren't taken with the proper context and specific emphasis that is lost when you read the lines on a screen, oppose to having me explain it in
okay the whole gentleman thing. i was actually regarding those actions as a way to meet women upon first contact. not as guidelines to act on a date
,although that isn't a bad way to act on a date (for all the ladies reading ). example... if you were walking to a bar and there was a woman
aproaching at the same time, you would get at least a smile from the lady, where as you would definitly adopt a negative glance, if you were to make
your way before her and left the door swinging possibly catching a door to the face. speaking for a majority of people, i would have to say that it
would suck being the one leaving the face print on the door as well as being the one who let'er loose. but hey it might work. there is always the
possibility of her breaking her nose and the guy being a dashing plastic surgeon.
and about the talking to all the girls.....i was using that as a sarchastic example to say, don't be afraid to talk to anyone. granted yes if you
sit by the bar and recite lewd remarks to every passing girl, then yes you are gonna be the bar creep. but if you are just your frendly-self and make
eye contact with someone in the immediate vicinity, say hello. if she walks on so do you, nothing lost, but if there should be a lingering stare or
even better a smile as well, then start making small talk. if it's something you feel is going somewhere, then great, keep it going. but if it's
not. thank her for the conversation and find your friends (i'm assumuing you brought friends, if you went by yourself then i conceed, you should be
the one writing this, cuz you are one confidant MOFO!, either that or an alcoholic
well once again that's just my 2 cents.