reply to post by SheaWolf
Yeah, cancer is hard. The sad thing about my friend is that she was in nursing school, and so as soon as she got the diagnosis, she knew more or less
what her odds were.
She has already had a radical debulking, a round of chemo, its growing again on her bladder, which necessitated another surgery, and she is waiting to
see if she qualifies for a trial.
She is only 51. All cancer is bad, and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. My friend wants to fight it, but even with her wanting to, she dreads going in
In this case, the main reason I think they should leave her alone is because they cant promise her a cure, and all they can promise her is years of
medical treatments she is terrified of. If they could cure her, I would say that she should be forced, because the years of good life afterward would
be worth it perhaps. But when they are dealing with something where a cure is unlikely, AND against the patients wishes, they should think about her
quality of life.
Quality over quantity, unless the patient wishes to fight for all they are worth.
Im really sorry about your mother. I really feel for my friends children too. Its not easy having a loved one with cancer. You want so much to be
able to make it better for them and you are just helpless. And the person with cancer has so much to process. Its hard watching someone come to terms
with death when it is staring them in the face. I dont deal with the everyday things they do. And no matter how much I care about her and love her
as a friend, its not the same as when it is the parent who nurtured you all your life.
Im so sorry for your loss, but I do believe that no matter how hard and scary death is for the living, it really isnt a bad thing for the one who
passes. I do believe in a better place, and an end to all suffering.
Edit to add,
And for XXRagingXPandaXX, I am not saying you are wrong. There is no absolute right and wrong in situations like this. We all have to go with our
heart and our gut, and we can debate the issue, but it really is just a personal judgment ultimately. I am just giving my reasoning for my judgment.
I am not trying to make you change yours. We all just do the best we can, and I know you are only saying what you honestly believe to be right.
[edit on 27-5-2010 by Illusionsaregrander]