posted on May, 26 2010 @ 12:44 PM
I grew up with my father's choice in wives, which did real damage to my bias against women. This was problematic for me because, as a woman, bias
against your own gender affects how you feel about yourself, too. I identified with men much more than women, all my friends were men. It took me most
of my adult life so far to grow beyond that.
What I learned, eventually, is that we live in a world of poor culture and lousy nutrition. A lot of people are really messed up by this. A lot of
individuals are trapped during childhood with parents, stepparents-etc. or teachers who have significant maturity problems at best and psychological
ailments at worst. Add this to a number of other cultural and psyche problems that can encourage bias (especially in young people), as well.
You will continue to attract, see-only, and relive that kind of history and that personal bias until you can work through it and change those belief
systems. There are people of both genders who are wonderful and who are lousy. Women can be nightmares; so can men. Women can be awesome; so can
It also sometimes helps to review just how radically our culture has changed in terms of women's rights. It wasn't very long ago at all that they
couldn't even open a checking account, own a business, all kinds of stuff that is shocking to realize how fairly recent that is.
It also helps to understand that sometimes social and legal problems can cause bias against a group that is injust to apply to individuals. For
example there are several laws that are injust to men in favor of women (particularly where things like children, divorce and rape are concerned) that
sometimes make men very resentful of unfairness -- but these are issues of laws; not of individuals.